I have given considerable thought to contacting OM. There is a possibility (although unlikely) that he doesn't even know I exist.
What would I say to him? I can think of lots of colorful things to say, but it isn't entirely his fault. And if he doesn't know she is married (again, unlikely) I obviously can't be that mad at him.
Part of me wants to tell him he can have her and her f'ed up sense of morals. And if they stay together, be prepared to be where I am now. Another part wants to piss him off, maybe he would cut it off.. that would get her panties in a bunch!
My WW's AP thought her and I were separated yet just living together until she could move out. It was news to me, because we were sleeping together daily, and in my mind we were in a rough patch that would iron itself out as each rough patch had before.
The AP probably on his own started to wonder why she could only come see him once a week for three weeks, why she couldn't go anywhere with him etc etc. He actually started to show up at her work etc, I'm sure just to see how she acted with me when I was picking her up from work. She was about to get a serious dose of double busted / whammy, had her guilt not taken over. I was on to her, and so was he. I do still want to see him suffer for things he said / did though. That's probably normal. For instance he was teaching her ways to take me financially to the cleaners.
Since I've offered a hand full of times to load her up and drop her off there, and she's refused every single time. See she started having feelings for the guy until she realized he was just using her for a piece of ass.
He may or may not act surprised when you introduce yourself as the husband. After that, you could ask him directly if he knew she was married. If he says no, ask him how they communicated and how they managed to see each other and see what he says.
I always think that if a guy were to act weird with me ie, not give me his home number; always wants a last minute date; turns out be unreliable (I guess cause wifey came back a day early from her trip) and so on. My first thought is , the guy is married.
I have trouble believing that other people put up with that behaviour and not wonder whether that person is truly available.
You'd get much further contacting OMs wife or girlfriend to expose the affair, IMHO. Let revenge be, it never really gives the satisfaction one hopes it might...
What's the deal with your marriage? Are you two trying to save it? Is the affair still ongoing?
My WW's AP thought her and I were separated yet just living together until she could move out. It was news to me, because we were sleeping together daily, and in my mind we were in a rough patch that would iron itself out as each rough patch had before.
The AP probably on his own started to wonder why she could only come see him once a week for three weeks, why she couldn't go anywhere with him etc etc. He actually started to show up at her work etc, I'm sure just to see how she acted with me when I was picking her up from work. She was about to get a serious dose of double busted / whammy, had her guilt not taken over. I was on to her, and so was he. I do still want to see him suffer for things he said / did though. That's probably normal. For instance he was teaching her ways to take me financially to the cleaners.
Since I've offered a hand full of times to load her up and drop her off there, and she's refused every single time. See she started having feelings for the guy until she realized he was just using her for a piece of ass.
He's still a douche in my opinion.
What was he telling her so that we can protect ourselves.
In your marriage, it was your wife who cheated. Even if he knew you existed in a marriage with your so called wife, it was for your wife to stay within the boundaries, dear.
What was he telling her so that we can protect ourselves.
He was an accountant.. Was teaching her basically how to not expose anything until she was actually moved out, otherwise I could use that in court, and screw her chances of taking half of anything. He was a douche completely, but he was unaware that we were still sleeping together.. In a way the last laugh is on him, because he was being very possessive telling her it was ok to stay where she was until she could afford to move out, so long as she didn't touch me blah blah blah... haha thinking about it, if he only knew.
Oh dear, a late friend of mine was cohabitating. Even though he claimed not to want children, his live in account gf went ahead had a couple. (I know, after the first one he should moved on.....)
Anyway, my sister told me that the live in gf knew that she could remortgage the house with only his name on the debt while taking his name off the deed. And so she did, and he had no idea of it.
Being kicked out and having so much debt led him to spiral down in drugs. It makes me sad thinking about it.
She banged your roommate (OM1) when you went out of town before you got married.
She lets some guy who works across the hall from her store spend the night in your apartment. He supposedly slept on the couch. Sure.
She has an online EA with some guy from Egypt who refers to her as his wife. Call this guy OM3
She's mad at you on your wedding night because once again, she feels you didn't give her enough attention because she's so needy.
She has a PA with OM4, the one you went urban exploring with.
She gets a job working nights and has a PA with the carpool guy,OM5
She has an EA with a friend of yours, 15,000 text messages to him alone in one month. That's OM6.
She has a PA with the guy she met on a weight loss website, OM7
And from your original post:
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Originally Posted by pmiller
A couple weeks ago, I am out of town for work and have a feeling something just isn't right. After I get back, I discover (because I was snooping again) that the guy she has been talking to came to visit her. He came almost 1400 miles to see her. This is defiantly something that was planned out in advance. There are pictures of them together, hanging on each other like a couple teenagers in love. There are pictures of them kissing. And there is a picture of her, in his hotel room putting her pants on. I asked her if she was seeing someone. She laughs and said no. I asked her if she has slept with someone else, again, laughing and a no. But that one was a little different. More of a nervous laugh. I confronted her about what I had found. She denies sleeping with him. She says she needed to changes her clothes because they were dirty. I asked her why they were dirty and she just laughed. No answer. I asked her why she would have a change of clothes with her at all. More laughter and no answer. She still denies it and won't tell me anything more. She told me that he doesn't even know that she is married. That was probably another lie, I heard her talking about me to him. Maybe she referred to me as her Ex, but I don't know. Most likely she didn't tell him she's married. After all, she told me that there is nothing left for her in the marriage. It is dead and needs to be buried.
You don't see where the problem is, do you? Its your WW. She was NEVER that into you from the beginning. You overheard her talking about you to the OM#7. Get this: If it wasn't him, it would have been someone else. Another man would have been OM#7.
I'm just presenting the facts as you have described them. Sorry, but she's laughing at you.
He was an accountant.. Was teaching her basically how to not expose anything until she was actually moved out, otherwise I could use that in court, and screw her chances of taking half of anything. He was a douche completely, but he was unaware that we were still sleeping together.. In a way the last laugh is on him, because he was being very possessive telling her it was ok to stay where she was until she could afford to move out, so long as she didn't touch me blah blah blah... haha thinking about it, if he only knew.
I think your wife is more despicable than anything the OM did. The OM only bought what your wife sold him. I don't think what he did was entirely wrong. He assumed that you were some controlling ******* that your wife was separating/divorcing from. He gave her a financial advice to get half of everything and was asking her not to touch you(as she told him that you were separating). I don't see anything outrageously wrong with it(except for starting a relationship with a separated but not yet divorced woman)
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