zanana1124

2 years ago my husband had sex with my mother who had tried to accuse him of rape. Which he was never charged with... He finally admited that he had sex with her after denying it.

Im not upset much over the affair because i had done the same thing several years ago but I am more upset with the fact that he lied and everything that was going on contributed to my depression and anxiety making it worse. I am about to lose it again.

I want to make this marriage work but right now i cant even think.
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daisygirl 41

So you're not bothered that your H had an A with your mother!!
Sorry I just don't know what to say!
How on earth can you begin to fix this?
Good luck!
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AngryandUsed

What he did is appalling. Unforgivable. When did you confirm his rape with your mother?

In your case, did you both agree to R?

Is he now, remorseful?

norajane

He had sex with your mother???

Are you certain it was not rape? How do you know?

I honestly do not understand why you would want to make this marriage work. That is dysfunctional behavior to the extreme. He must have really wanted to hurt you.

And what about your mother? What kind of relationship do you have with her? Because if he did not rape her, your mother is also an enemy of yours. Mothers do not do this to their children!

Pleas, see a therapist immediately to help you get through this. Do you have any friends you can stay with and who can help you?

CandieGirl

...yuck...

lamaga

Sex with your mom?

Why would you even want to make this marriage work? Why?

daisygirl 41

I'm glad I'm not the only one that thought this was a dire situation!
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DiZ

I still cannot pick my jaw up off the ground. You need to get away form this man ASAP

Complexity

Is this for real? sounds like a bad episode of Maury

Eli-Zor

" Im not upset much over the affair because i had done the same thing several years ago"

This says what?
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lamaga

It seems to imply that she also had sex with her mom, but I'm chalking that up to bad syntax, I guess she just means she also had an affair.

Whatever. Paging Sophocles, clean up on Aisle 2. Sophocles to Aisle 2, please.

lordmayhem

I'm wondering that too. Does that mean she and an affair too, or had an affair with his Dad?

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aug

Revenge affair with your mother, maybe?

Paladin

Is this for real? Or should I be looking for a bridge?

If he denied having sex with your mom for two years, then admitted it, what makes you think he was telling the truth about the rape?

There are no statues of limitation or rape charges in most states, if he did in fact rape your mother, charges should be brought against him as soon as possible.

lamaga

True, Paladin, very true.

However, whether he screwed her mom consensually or raped her, I'm still not understanding the "wanting to save the marriage" bit. I guess I just have different boundaries. Or, you know, bridge.