Don't let her fu*k with your mind. You husband and you seem to be back on track -- focus on the all the positives and how far you have come. This will pass -- with time --. Just enjoy each other !!
youre doing good maricha75, sounds like he is too.
cant say much for the tramp though.
one thing, expect the possibility of her coming after you after the letter is sent.
my exws 'bf' through texts started threatening me and telling me not to fvck with his family after i let his wife know what was going on.
i just thought 'me, fvcking with HIS family?'
how stupid can someone be?
if she is on FB I would flame her so bad I know not the right thing to do but it sounds awesome!
Send that letter ASAP! Glad he told you.
LOL she is BLOCKED on my FB, his, our son's, and even our joint account. The letter will be sent. And, even if she intercepts and reads it, so be it. I stated in the letter that hubby and I share everything. I have access to all of his info and he has access to mine. And we hide nothing from each other. I do expect that whether he actually gets the letter or not...if he confronts her, she is likely to try to contact one of us, or both of us, to complain. Possibly even creating a new FB account to do it. I say "bring it b!tch"... I told her... I'm not letting go of MY man!
Reminds me of Loretta Lynn's "You Ain't Woman Enough (To Take My Man)"... and yes, I HAD to listen to it.
It all went down thru texts. I had asked (because we had, supposedly, been friends) that she stop talking to him because of what I had learned. She got b!tchy with me, and said she wanted HIM to tell her. And he did. He sent her a text, right after reading what she wrote to me, and said he didn't want to talk to her anymore. That he wants to work on our marriage. She raged back at him basically saying "fine, don't ever expect to talk to me again!".... and now this. He had/has never emailed her. Only contact was ever text, FB, and World of Warcraft. Never even knew her address until *I* did a search for her.
Send her fiancée the letter. Just add one sentence to the top: I wasn't planning to send this but she texted him today. It isn't really over yet, at least not for her.
Don't say what the text was as he might try to discount it as harmless. The contact itself is a breach. Let her deal with the fallout.
UOTE=Maricha75;832769]I now have the choice of sending the letter to the OW fiance (unless he is former by now?) or not. I was concerned with whether she would contact hubby on his b-day or not. Nope, she chose to send him a f*cking text today, to say Happy Father's Day! He just said to me that he got a text from someone saying happy father's day, and he doesn't know who it is. I asked the number because my sister got one this morning as well...and he told me. I started shaking. What part of DO NOT CONTACT does she not f*cking understand?? Now, I did type up an exposure letter to her bf a few weeks ago, but obviously thought too much time had passed to send it to him. Now... since she seems to be testing the waters to try to get in again, should I just send it, and mention today's contact? Hubby and I have been doing well, with minor problems. I seriously am thinking of texting her myself, but I know that would be a bad idea.[/QUOTE] Posted via Mobile Device
It all went down thru texts. I had asked (because we had, supposedly, been friends) that she stop talking to him because of what I had learned. She got b!tchy with me, and said she wanted HIM to tell her. And he did. He sent her a text, right after reading what she wrote to me, and said he didn't want to talk to her anymore. That he wants to work on our marriage. She raged back at him basically saying "fine, don't ever expect to talk to me again!".... and now this. He had/has never emailed her. Only contact was ever text, FB, and World of Warcraft. Never even knew her address until *I* did a search for her.
Ok, so she HAS been warned and asked(told)to back the hell off.SO, yeah- the letter HAS to go. Expect retribution though.
Please let her fiancee know. The poor "bastar*" deserves to know before the bit*h* becomes his wife. If he still wants to marry her -- I will make the prediction that he will become a member of TAM and asking for advice.
Please let her fiancee know. The poor "bastar*" deserves to know before the bit*h* becomes his wife. If he still wants to marry her -- I will make the prediction that he will become a member of TAM and asking for advice.
Possibly, but she claims he was cheating on her, so... idk. kinda surprised she isn't here. Or maybe she is....
Another reason I am certain it is a 'fishing expedition' is because she never sent ME a text on Mother's Day. She had my number...stress "had" because she likely deleted me.
Last contact was March 30. Not blocked because I am illiterate regarding that stuff... it will be NOW. We deleted the number from our phones, but didn't think to block it. And dunno about blocking thru AT&T. But it's being done. My sisters have my back too.
And definitely YAY on hubby's part.
$4.99 a month for their "parental controls" add-on to your plan, which lets you block calls and texts to/from whatever numbers you choose.
Just block the number and ignore her and focus on your marriage. Don't let yourself be distracted from what you really want by someone else's delusional state. Trust me on this one, she is just yanking chains. Don't take the bait. You're getting all worked up over a text message, it's electronic communication. Think about how little power she has if that's all she can manage. Honestly, why feed into it, it will only encourage her to know she has got your attention and has certain knowledge that she is causing problems in YOUR home. I would not let on, I would block and ignore and get on with your life.
Maricha, I think this chick sent that message to your old man for your 'benefit' rather than his, if you know what I mean. I've been down that road several times in years past with me receiving flowers, panties, gifts, cards, etc., all strategically delivered to the house. Don't hammer on your husband about it. He's being used as a tool to cause trouble.
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Re: Un-f*cking-believable! 
