Letter sent this afternoon when I got our mail. Now, I wait. I didn't put return address on the envelope. I expect she will notice the mail stamp is my state, tho. Who knows? The most important part is that it is sent. If she intercepts, there is always FB or figure out where he works....still searching about her family tho.
Not. A. Word.
It's funny, really. I half expected her to retaliate. Then again... mail may not be there yet, OR she intercepted it. Either way, I would have expected a text or call from her. Oh, and I did put a call/text blocker on hubby's phone (mine too). I blocked her immediately on his. Left it open on mine for one reason: I want her to text me, damn it! LOL
I told hubby that I sent the letter. I told him that I blocked her and he smiled, squeezed my hand, and kissed me. He couldn't care less what she thinks lol. But damn it! I wanted her to retaliate! It IS possible it hasn't gotten there, yet. Michigan to Washington, and it wouldn't have been picked up from our mail drop box til Tuesday afternoon anyway.
Finally got a response from her, not him. She sent me a text, after she was sure I would be in bed, I am quite certain. Here it is:
"omg ur so f*ckin hilarious with the letter. LOL he alrdy knew everything that happened and he doesnt care. we both got a great laugh outta it. thnx for that. and take care u insecure selfish person hahaha"
For the record, my brain hurt reading that text. I had abbreviations for most things....and skipping apostrophes, etc. Anyway, I am thinking that either
1. She is lying (he never read it) and she intercepted it.
2. She wants me to THINK he's ok with it. When, in reality, he chewed her out.
3. Rug sweeping at it's finest..and they are perfect for each other... a match made in hell. LOL
Maricha, you know the drill. The OW will always, always think that she's superior to you. Delete that text and go have raunchy sex with your H and don't let her intrude in your thoughts any more. I know it's hard but you've WON and any brain space she occupies from here on out is a huge waste! Posted via Mobile Device
I vote that option 1 is spot on. With that said- I would block her and let her be the miserable ho she is. Put your energy into YOUR H.
As Iheart said- YOU WON! Move on. In this case apathy is your best revenge. AND block her number!!! Remove her from your life. You cant move her totally out of your head but you can move her from your everyday life. The sooner the better.
Getting my h's AP to the point of NC was the best day. And I plan to keep it that way if possible. If she raises her ugly head in our lives again its GAME ON. BUT she knows I have PROOF of the EA so that could mean her job so I THINK she will stay in her hole right where she belongs. However, I know the day is gonna come when we run into her. She works 12 miles from our house and Im sure we will cross paths again someday. I dont know what my reaction to her will be on that day. Guess it depends on how long it is from now and IF she tries to talk to my H. Until then, Im moving on w/o her as best I can. I carry her in my head but Im trying not to let her rule my life. Its a challenge for sure. Not to feel like second choice. Thats the hardest part for me.
I can imagine that would be how the OW in our story might respond if I sent something to her and did not call or email her BF directly. They are so skanky and messed up. On that note, you can let it be, or you can text her back and say "I am glad that you and your SO are laughing - laughter is the best medicine and Lord knows you need it....have a good life - I am going to go have some raunchy porn sex with my husband now.
Send another letter, certified mail. Odds are she interceppted it and her mean spirited message is an attempt to dissuade further contact.
We all have a moral obligation to watch out for other BSs, like her boyfriend.
Oh, and AR, I don't know where he works. All I know is his name, and where they live. It took a lot of digging to get even THAT much. I believe he works at Walmart... but in most larger cities, you know how many there are around!
Just for the record: I would expect my husband to send a letter if one of my EAs tried to fish as well. Hell, I'd help him search for the spouse's name and work info so he COULD do it... to avoid interception. But, they are out of our lives now, and that's what matters.
I still think the boyfiend deserves to know. I also think your H should have the balls to do the disclosing. He screwed this guy over. How does he feel about having hurt this guy?
That's the hard part. While he feels horrible about getting involved in the EA with this woman... more because it hurt me than anything... I don't think he has given this guy any thought. If we base everything on what she told us (I know, cheaters lie)... he was cheating, too. Only HIS was physical (according to her).
ETA: Girl friend of mine made an excellent point: if the guy DID, in fact, read it, and laughed it off... then he obviously doesn't really think much of her. Of course, if he did what she claims he did, that much is obvious anyway...