Re: Another thing for the suspicous and newly discovered BS
Such as the following from that site:
My H, MM and I all work together. After out D-day my MM took a week off from work because he felt horrible and just didn't know how to handle the situation or how my H would react. They had been friends previously also so it made things harder. People at work were and still are suspicious of what is going on but no one knows the truth so it doesn't really matter to me what they say. We all do our jobs well so it just doesn't mean a thing to me. There are gossiping people in every workplace so I just ignore it. My biggest worry was that my H was going to contact MMs W and tell her because she didn't know what happened and if she found out our relationship turned physical she would probably leave him. Anyway its been almost a year since Dday for us and things at work are fine. People still make comments here and there but like I said they have no proof so we just ignore and do our jobs.
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so from this you should learn:
1. Exposure is very effective and you WS fears it as does the OM.
2. Don't believe for a minute when your WS says it was just friends, and nothing happened.
3. Watch out for AP who sudden disappears for a while.
Burn the AP to the ground, and let them know it was due to the WS.
Tell the WS after you've exposed, and let them know the AP is suffering because of them.
And do not let up or back off because the WS tells you a sob story about the AP.
My H, MM and I all work together. After out D-day my MM took a week off from work because he felt horrible and just didn't know how to handle the situation or how my H would react. They had been friends previously also so it made things harder. People at work were and still are suspicious of what is going on but no one knows the truth so it doesn't really matter to me what they say. We all do our jobs well so it just doesn't mean a thing to me. There are gossiping people in every workplace so I just ignore it. My biggest worry was that my H was going to contact MMs W and tell her because she didn't know what happened and if she found out our relationship turned physical she would probably leave him. Anyway its been almost a year since Dday for us and things at work are fine. People still make comments here and there but like I said they have no proof so we just ignore and do our jobs.
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so from this you should learn:
1. Exposure is very effective and you WS fears it as does the OM.
2. Don't believe for a minute when your WS says it was just friends, and nothing happened.
3. Watch out for AP who sudden disappears for a while.
Burn the AP to the ground, and let them know it was due to the WS.
Tell the WS after you've exposed, and let them know the AP is suffering because of them.
And do not let up or back off because the WS tells you a sob story about the AP.
Just learned all that the hard way Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Another thing for the suspicous and newly discovered BS
Just like WS sometimes come here and find their BS looking for help, I think the BS needs to spend time search for their WS getting support and strategy from places like that.
I didn't see one single post from a remorseful WS or a WS who was going to stop after DD. Every post was fearful for the AP, and figuring out how to keep together with the AP.
It's perhaps the most honest insight into the WS mind set there is. I guess we should be happy to have them documenting their true intentions and plans for us.
Re: Another thing for the suspicous and newly discovered BS
I think it's a bad idea to go on those threads whether you're a BS or someone in a faithful relationship. You'll just become paranoid in any relationship you go in and frankly, it robs any trust you'll have in someone you love.
Re: Another thing for the suspicous and newly discovered BS
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Originally Posted by Shaggy
Such as the following from that site:
My H, MM and I all work together. After out D-day my MM took a week off from work because he felt horrible and just didn't know how to handle the situation or how my H would react. They had been friends previously also so it made things harder. People at work were and still are suspicious of what is going on but no one knows the truth so it doesn't really matter to me what they say. We all do our jobs well so it just doesn't mean a thing to me. There are gossiping people in every workplace so I just ignore it. My biggest worry was that my H was going to contact MMs W and tell her because she didn't know what happened and if she found out our relationship turned physical she would probably leave him. Anyway its been almost a year since Dday for us and things at work are fine. People still make comments here and there but like I said they have no proof so we just ignore and do our jobs.
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so from this you should learn:
1. Exposure is very effective and you WS fears it as does the OM.
2. Don't believe for a minute when your WS says it was just friends, and nothing happened.
3. Watch out for AP who sudden disappears for a while.
Burn the AP to the ground, and let them know it was due to the WS.
Tell the WS after you've exposed, and let them know the AP is suffering because of them.
And do not let up or back off because the WS tells you a sob story about the AP.
4. After DDay, they usually take it underground and continue the affair. So you need to monitor.
Re: Another thing for the suspicous and newly discovered BS
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Originally Posted by warlock07
I think we provide more publicity to this site more than anything they pay for. This site is being referenced all too often here
I have mixed feelings on this point. It's a very valid point.
Opinion #1 - exposing it here and exposing it in general reduces the usefulness of it as meet up place for cheaters. If suspicious spouses find their WS there, then bingo! So by letting people know about it, we hurt their ability to coordinate.
Options #2 - the folks there are so far gone, it's like looking into an opium den full of addicts getting their last hits before the end. Sad, pathetic, and ugly to watch.
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