So as I always have that doubt if H is not contacting his OW overseas...so....I sent her an email today asking her that if she has proof of them still being in contact to send me the proof...
I said to her that if on the off chance they are still in contact that he tells her no don't send her anything then she should wonder why..if his marriage was so bad as I am sure he told her..why wouldn't he want to end it and hook up with her instead. Why would he want to stay married to me..maybe she should think about that?
I also said to her if he is your "dream man" and you know that you are still in contact with him then let me know and I will divorce him. Basically if she wants him then give me proof because I will be done.
I know that was stupid but I couldn't help myself and I thought if she wants him that bad...then here is her opportunity to let me know what is really going on.
I just can't take him at his word anymore (he seems sincere but then again he seemed sincere for months on end) and even though I check everything I still have that nagging doubt in my mind that maybe he is more sneaky now...
I, due to checking and verifying things, think that absolutely nothing is going on anymore, but there is that little paranoid thoughts that come into my mind every now and then.
I honestly do not think I will hear anything from her...but it was a spur of the moment decision to do it.
I know I know...I couldn't help myself! I thought if there was something going on then this is her opportunity to have her "man"...and then I know for sure!!!!
Gosh...I feel at times like I should be on the Jerry Springer show confronting the OW...sad isn't it! Fighting with another woman for my man....how pitiful!
No, but what if I get answers out of it..what if there is still contact going on? Do you think, just out of curiousity, that if there was that she would let me know?
Understand that will never happen again..after that email that is it.
Highwood, honey -- if I got that email, and if your husband had told me in no uncertain terms that he loved his wife and that I was never to contact him again...
I would answer, oh yes I would! telling you all about the hot phone sex we were having, just to mess with your mind.
Really. Do not walk up to your enemy, hand them a hammer, and say, "please don't hit me."
I would expect proof like copies of emails sent in the last month or so basically since DD#2 in April..that is the kind of proof I am looking for.....no, not just her word..I would want to see actual evidence.
To me if she wants him so bad...then this is her opportunity as I would leave the marriage.
And be VERY cautious in interpreting any BS she sends you! Why do you think she'll tell you the truth? She may manufacture something and actually reach out more to your H because you have suggested things are not wonderful at home. You already know this; but, this was a colossal mistake
...and if they are in contact and she tells him about this email and he says no don't send her anything...her as an OW should then wonder why it matters so much to him to keep his marriage together, to not let me see what was going on. That might make her question things on her end as well.....(although I am speaking like this woman has morals or something)
And be VERY cautious in interpreting any BS she sends you! Why do you think she'll tell you the truth? She may manufacture something and actually reach out more to your H because you have suggested things are not wonderful at home. You already know this; but, this was a colossal mistake
It would be hard to reach out to him..she cannot contact him via phone at all, so the only way would be to contact him via email and he has no email address active that she knows about so not sure how she would do it...(just a note..she lives overseas in another country so not as easy to make contact).
I don't blame you for doing that. I feel like doing it too. Although there is supposedly full transparency I still have that little nagging thing going on in my gut too.
But, like everyone else said would you really get the truth that way anyway? Who knows? They are both liars so I wouldn't put it past them...
If she sends you emails you would have proof though. So, it could be a win for you? Or you could get a false sense of reassurance if she covers for him... You won't know until when/if she responds...
Highwood, honey. Stop that. It's very easy to send emails to wherever you want, regardless of what country they are in.
You have just exposed your flank, to use military parlance. Do not trust anything she says in return. And yeah, just chill, honey. I know it's hard. As I've said before, either you make the decision to trust, or you make the decision to leave. Living in the limboland will drive you insane.
From: Highwoods Hubby [mailto:ten_inch_dude@hotmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, June 20, 2012 2:36 PM
To: my creamy honey bun
Subject: RE: hi
I can hardly wait to slip my long john into your bun. Thinking of you and hard as a rock right now.
Love, HH
Whoa...pretty descriptive there lady
That's true however I would still confront him but before that I kind of know from seeing their prior emails/messenger conversations, etc., how their conversations went...and the type of things he was talking to her about..i.e. where he was working now (he is a subcontractor) so I would be able to tell how legit it was...because he would tell her about the place he was working at, what he has been doing, etc. etc.
So I would without a doubt be able to decipher from the way he is in emails, etc. if it was really him.
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I did something stupid.... 
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