You know, I never actually read that mega thread until I clicked on it. I thought it was the usual WS in a fog and complaining about their spouse and wanting validation for their cheating type thread.
Instead, its the usual BS believes its an EA despite the thousands of texts, WS being distant, and the BS initially wanting to desperately save the marriage type thread.
You really do see the same WS cheater script/behavior over and over again in the different threads that its so predictable. Same sometimes with the BS, with all the denial and shock, and the initial needy/clingy behavior.
You know, I never actually read that mega thread until I clicked on it. I thought it was the usual WS in a fog and complaining about their spouse and wanting validation for their cheating type thread.
Instead, its the usual BS believes its an EA despite the thousands of texts, WS being distant, and the BS initially wanting to desperately save the marriage type thread.
You really do see the same WS cheater script/behavior over and over again in the different threads that its so predictable. Same sometimes with the BS, with all the denial and shock, and the initial needy/clingy behavior.
Yes, but wrsteele1, to his credit, verified what was going on and discovered the truth. They were in MC and R but things seemed off. He saved himself months, or if my situation is any guide, years of being in the dark. They had the 1000s of texts and supposedly had ended it after admitting to an EA. But they worked together, the kiss of death as vets know. Posted via Mobile Device
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Originally Posted by iheartlife
Yes, but wrsteele1, to his credit, verified what was going on and discovered the truth. They were in MC and R but things seemed off. He saved himself months, or if my situation is any guide, years of being in the dark. They had the 1000s of texts and supposedly had ended it after admitting to an EA. But they worked together, the kiss of death as vets know. Posted via Mobile Device
But I do give credit to user.name for not wanting to know. wrsteele1 now has a recording of his wife giving a blowjob to another man, that stuff will be in his head for a looooong time.
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HIW, this is what I think you should do:-
1) work out how much time your wife spends on her training and exercising over a month
2) work out how much time she spends with you and her children
Now you have those two figure in mind, you need to ask yourself these questions:
A) Is the amount of time she is spending doing 2) outweighed by the amount of time she is spending doing 1?
B) Do you believe that she might be cheating on you?
C) If the answer to A) is that she is spending an inordinate amount of time doing 1, then here is another question for you: Does it matter if she is cheating on you sexually, or not?
The reason I ask that third question is because there are equally devastating ways of ruining a marriage other than cheating.
For example, someone who spends 18 hours a day on computer or console game playing will be as bad a husband or father (Or worse) than someone with a string of lovers.
But I do give credit to user.name for not wanting to know. wrsteele1 now has a recording of his wife giving a blowjob to another man, that stuff will be in his head for a looooong time.
so are you off your James Bond kick as a result? Posted via Mobile Device
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Originally Posted by lordmayhem
You know, I never actually read that mega thread until I clicked on it. I thought it was the usual WS in a fog and complaining about their spouse and wanting validation for their cheating type thread.
Instead, its the usual BS believes its an EA despite the thousands of texts, WS being distant, and the BS initially wanting to desperately save the marriage type thread.
You really do see the same WS cheater script/behavior over and over again in the different threads that its so predictable. Same sometimes with the BS, with all the denial and shock, and the initial needy/clingy behavior.
We need a way to catologue threads by the types of affairs or something. It would be a help if we could say go look at these ten threads, for example, so each new poster could see a similar situation. So much time is spent convincing posters what is probably going on. Many times, the time it takes to prod them along could have been used to save their marriage. You see it coming and the poster is wandering around in left field. EAs seem to be the hardest to get someone to move on and the ones that could be busted.
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Originally Posted by HopingImWrong
The big problem is trying to get the backups without her knowing as she is near her phone all the time.
And if I ask her to pull the deleted texts, and by chance there really is nothing inappropriate, then that would be very bad.
Wow, we keep seeing this. All sorts of inappropriate stuff and a BS feeling guilty. Also fearful to take action because things might be ... innocent.
Again I have trouble seeing how what is right in front of ones face is innocent. Three hours a day with another man? 1000s of texts about anything!?
I have lost count of this same theme though over the past month. Men training wives and spending long hours with them. Personal trainers and men volunteering to invest in these guys wives for the love of the sport ....
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Originally Posted by Aristotle
Sometimes I agree with the gather evidence plan, but if this was my wife, no way. Not in this case. He knows him, he knows how they met, he knows the relationship, and he knows she is talking to him way too much when he is not around and has deleted 1000s of text messages.
This is not a matter of gathering evidence in my opinion, this is a matter of making a stand as her husband. What she is doing is absolutely wrong. Who cares if her 1000 text messages were about her family and her life, the type of husband you are, and her plans for the future -- innocent gibber gabber. That's a 1000 text messages she could have spent with you. Who cares if her hour long phone calls when you are not around are purely talk of how nice the weather is. This relationship is already NOT healthy. Red flags are everywhere, he is posting on a marriage forum, and she is crying after sex asking him to please trust her. If she wants you to trust her, hand over the phone and stop deleting messages.
I honestly wouldn't care what was being said at this point. I would rather setup my marriage boundaries for all her future coaches that happen to be men, and let her know right now, no after hour talks, no 1000 text messages, and definitely no deleting these text messages.
Is she trying to be an Olympic athlete? Is this her hobby or her career move? I mean, I guess if she wanted to be an Olympic athlete and she was going to put all of her life on hold to try out for the Olympics, a coach should be hands on (pun?). Otherwise, no way, no way.
Right. He has enough information to kill this inappropriate relationship now.
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