Everyone here--is telling you the way it needs to be
You cheated, the 2 of you worked thru it, it stopped, and that was it
Now she cheats, you get it stopped, and then what happens---she starts up again---So you really can't believe anything she says----I promise you those makeout sessions, some of them, were not limited to lip locking---she admits to one time of spreading the legs----That's a large lie.
She says your stifling her---that is nothing more than her using the alleged jealousy, as justification, for her to resume, her A.
She knew you were gonna moniter her, what did she expect
You tell us---what do you really have for a wife, she is a real piece of work, isn't she---she is one very SELFISH woman.---she now wants you to lower yourself and cheat to even the score----does she have any kind of morals at all---I wonder what you both see when you look at her in the mirror
I will tell you why you are getting all this sobbing, and doing what she thinks is needed to stay in the mge
Cuz she is scared sh*tless that you will D, her, and she will be forced to face the big bad world on her own---and you better believe, that is not something she wants to face----she has her nice little life/H./family/mge, and life may not be great, but its OK-----If you D., her that all dissapears------so then that begs the question, what are her motives, for staying
If she loved you at all, which I don't see how that could be, if she is out screwing another man, but if there was some love there for you, when you caught her, and gave her your gift---THE SECOND CHANCE, what did she do---she justified, your hurt/pain/suffering/checking, into a reason to go and cheat again
A cheating spouse that is truly serious, would be doing everything/anything possible no matter what to make a R., work------what does this woman you are married to do---wants you to cheat, and she continues her A., and states, if you hadn't caught her, she would still be screwing her lover
WHAT DO YOU THINK OUGHT TO BE DONE????????
If someone came to you, and presented this to you, as their problem, what would YOUR advice be to them??????