Such women, like our ex-wives, are broken to the core. Allybabe was broken long ago, long before she met her husband. Its not our fault that we could not see the signs.
As for myself I have no good excuse. I should have divorced my ex the first time I caught her cheating. That is a mistake I have paid dearly for, and why I am not a big proponent of reconcilliation. Posted via Mobile Device
Bandit,
I know you are not a fan of R because of what your wife did a 2nd time.
But i think you are the man you are today because of what your wife did a 2nd time.
And that is a big compliment to you my friend.
And all of us guys, plus the TAM ladies and gym girl get the best of you!!
And no I am not gay and happily married so do not get any ideas. Lol!
Have a great 4th of July guys and oh yeah bandit, I hope that big bottle rocket does not hit your exwifes trailer too hard and do any damage???
Bandit, the fact that you gave your ex-wife a second chance is not a testament to your stupidity but of hers. Only a truly stupid woman would stomp at being given another chance by her forgiving husband.
My ex-wife already has paid dearly for her betrayal and it is just a matter of time before your ex-wife pays for hers.
If you told her to file, guess what....she's going to drag her feet on this. We've read it here before, where the BS doesn't want to be the one to file, and the WS drags it on forever. She wants to cake eat as long as possible. She's contented to be the OM's sex toy right? Then what incentive does she have to file? She's got security with being married, a live-in babysitter (YOU), and she gets to bang her OM with the OMW's consent.
ALL while you live in the hell of in-house separation. Shooboomafoo had to live thru that hell, while watching his ex wife get herself all primped up for dates with other men.
Don't let her cake eat and turn you into the live-in babysitter. Time to file.
She is looking for a new place now and will be out shortly.
I guess we've got plenty of experience with ex-wives dying to be some scumbag's sex toy than a good man's wife. Too bad there isn't an early detection filter that we could use before getting married to one.
I agree. There comes a time when ever betrayed man has to just admit they married the wrong women. I know I did.
My wife is here at the house sleeping in the camper for now. It's a little hard for me with her being here and I worry it is confusing the kids more but I kind of understand. She has nowhere to go untill she finds a place and this is legally her house as well as mine. She saYs she is also worried about the what te kids will think when she leaves. She wants a place ready so we can give the mommys house/daddy's house speech. Not the mommys leaving to go somewhere speech. I don't know what's better but I do know I am done fighting.
What's better is for your kids to see their DAD showing integrity and not giving in to selfish immoral people. File the papers, make her fight to see the kids...let her suffer for once in her misguided life and maybe, maybe she might learn a little bit so she doesn't push her thought process onto your kids.
Thier first fight or "non perfect day" or "night" will be a test. My STBXW will always wonder everytime his phone beeps if it's his ex. It's gonna drive her insane.
Or his NEW mistress.
Great job, Allybabe. You've become a wonderful role model for your kids to emulate.
What's better is for your kids to see their DAD showing integrity and not giving in to selfish immoral people. File the papers, make her fight to see the kids...let her suffer for once in her misguided life and maybe, maybe she might learn a little bit so she doesn't push her thought process onto your kids.
In not out to punish her and the kids need their mom
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I just want a fair split of out assets, joint custody of the kids and that she does not move the kids to be with her affair partner. This is all happening so I see no reason to fight. Life will punish her...
I don't care what happens to her. I care about the kids spending half their time with a mom with a revolving bedroom door. My best friend's mom was on her 7th husband. Just kept cheating on the current one when he ran out of money. Scarred my friend for life. No one stood up to her mom and said act right in front of your kids.
I'm not saying to take her to the cleaners or leave her destitute. I'm talking about making sure the divorce decree sets a high bar for what your children are exposed to.
We have arranged a meeting with a lawyer to help us through the divorce process together. Hope to minimize arguments and expense by negotiating a fair settlement for both. We both need better understanding of certain things so we are going together. The hope is to minimize cost which can add up quick with two lawyers going back and forth, put the agreements we have made in legal writing, and to have an impartial view on our situation. What do you think?
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