How does this situation prove that exposure is a good thing?
Generally speaking exposure causes more problems not less.
Who notified dingerdad that his WW was still in contact with the OM? It was the OMW, that's who. That's why there were two eyes on the affair, not just dingerdad's. Generally speaking exposure is good for killing affair and/or ensuring NC. Without the warning from OMW, dingerdad wouldn't have known his WW was still cheating on him and he'd still be living in False R.
Who notified dingerdad that his WW was still in contact with the OM? It was the OMW, that's who. That's why there were two eyes on the affair, not just dingerdad's. Generally speaking exposure is good for killing affair and/or ensuring NC. Without the warning from OMW, dingerdad wouldn't have known his WW was still cheating on him and he'd still be living in False R.
That's not really exposure because the affair was no secret at that point.
That's more like 'keeping tabs on things afterwards'.
Her last login is 6/25/12. So she is checking stuff out here.
If she is, then she has absolutely no conscience at all, knowing full well that she's still in the affair and continuing to betray dingerdad. She's sociopathic I think. Probably having a good laugh at all the BSs here.
What makes Ally believe that the OM isn't going to do the same thing to her when the novelty of her wears off and there is another attractive woman, without kids, giving him the green light that she wants him? But I guess she's going to have to find that out firsthand, won't she?
Actually the OM is a spineless b!tch. He was asking to get back with Allybabe 2 weeks into his marriage or something like that
I got my wife to come to this forum because I thought it would help her understand how devastating infidelity is to everyone involved. Didn't work I guess. R not working I not all her fault. I carried a lot of hurt and anger from the affair and wasnt even close to trusting her again or giving her the marriage she wanted.
I did say a million times though that if she ever thought she didn't want to be with me or go through this than she should leave and I could live with that. Why she had to cheat, wait for me to find out AGAIN and then tell me she loves him I will never understand. Act of a cruel selfish person.
I have talked to OMW and recommended this forum to her. She needs it bad. She still wants to wait for the OM after 3 ddays with my wife and who knows how many others with other women.
I don't know details about current affair. If it ever stopped, if they had sex, etc. Once I read the email the OMW sent me I was done. Do not care to know. Dday 1 apr 2011, dday 2 oct 2011, dday 3 yesterday. Who knows when it stopped, started, etc.
I read somewhere that when this scenario happens -- your exw just went from mistress/OW to being in a relationship/marriage with OM and thus created a job opening for OM -- he will now look for a new mistress/OW.
Sounds like two people who cheated mutiple times -- and will continue cheating -- but now on each other.
R not working I not all her fault. I carried a lot of hurt and anger from the affair and wasnt even close to trusting her again or giving her the marriage she wanted.
"I got my wife to come to this forum because I thought it would help her understand how devastating infidelity is to everyone involved. Didn't work I guess. R not working I not all her fault. I carried a lot of hurt and anger from the affair and wasnt even close to trusting her again or giving her the marriage she wanted."
Maybe it was because she wasn't into the marriage -- and she obviously wasn't giving 100% -- so don't you dare blame yourself.
Your gut and heart told you something was not right -- thus you never trusted her again -- and with good reason.
Maybe in a sense this was a good thing -- because your heart will not be as broken -- if that makes sense.
I feel bad for your kids -- you need to be strong for yourself and them now more than ever.
Question -- is she wanting to see the kids -- or is she leaving them behind as well?
I am shaking with anger and frustration and plain old hurt for you, dinger. Many of us were fooled, but nobody can be hurting like you are. Wishing there was a way to help you from afar (If there is, pm away! as I am going through the S/D process with a 7 yr old in the equation.) Good luck to you, sir. You WILL get through this.
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