04-13-2009, 04:53 PM
Join Date: Mar 2009
| | Re: Lying & Denial
It seems to be common that when a spouse cheats- they give you only the information that they absolutely HAVE to. They confirm what you know if you have proof. They tell you as little as possible (probably to keep from incriminating themselves anymore).
**No because it was fun, exciting, new and lustful.
It seems that in this process of trying to repair a marriage, things come out, new lies are uncovered, etc, etc.
**That is why the cheater must tell all the most intimate details.
How many chances do you give your spouse? If they don't come clean the first time? It seems that it is genuinely part of the process, but I don't know how much more of it I can take.
**0 Chances, hiding is another form of cheating allows the door to open again.
I've caught my husband in several lies post cheating. He's lied to me at first and then later come clean about it. But it's making it more and more difficult to trust anything he says. When do I say when? How many chances to tell the whole truth do I give him?
** Angain its got to be the first step.
The part that confuses and frustrates me is that he is genuinely being great at home, but then another thing that I didn't know about will come to the surface and it will make all the progress seem like it was for nothing.
**Most men and women are, my ex would wash my feet if she could before going out for her fling.
And then I have this side of me that wishes I didn't know anything. Wishes that I could live in denial. I know it's not the answer, and it's just me coping with my day-to-day feelings. But sometimes being in the dark about all this seems like it would be so much easier.
**Just think days of wasted life, not fair to you if you think about it.
Now be empowered.