04-14-2009, 09:50 AM
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Washington State
| | Has anyone actually stayed THROUGH an ongoing affair?
There was a short time awhile back where I learned that my husband was still in communication with the other woman. He said he was going to break things off for good, but there was a period of time where he was still living here and having minimal, but some contact with her.
The whole situation made me think about those who chose to stay in the marriage, in the same home, while knowing that an affair is going on. It made me realize that if he was unwilling to give her up for now, but also wasn't wanting to leave me and our kids, then I would have a choice to make. I could stay knowing he had contact with her or I could leave/ ask him to leave.
Have any of you actually chosen to stay? To try and love your spouse THROUGH the affair? How did it work out for you in the end?
I'm not sure I could personally do that, but as crazy as it sounds, I can see the logic of WHY someone would do it and so I'm curious about personal experiences as to whether this was actually successful for anyone, or if it just resulted in more heartbreak.