Dont know what to do

Kapla| · 07-04-2012, 07:19 AM

i caught my ww a week ago talking to someone on facebook. she says that if she has to stop talking to him that she would leave and that i have a week to get her to fall back in love with my. we have 2 kids and a house and she dont care about nuthing but that man on facebook

Mario Kempes · 07-04-2012, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Kapla|

i caught my ww a week ago talking to someone on facebook. she says that if she has to stop talking to him that she would leave and that i have a week to get her to fall back in love with my. we have 2 kids and a house and she dont care about nuthing but that man on facebook

Jeez, she's in deep with this guy. Serious Emotional Affair going on, by the looks of it! Does she know this guy? Have they met? Has it gone physical?

I don't know any of your background. I don't know what kind of a relationship you two have but, if this has come totally out of the blue, I'd tell her to quit all contact with the Other Man or else you'll pack her bags and kick her ass out the door and pay for the taxi to take her to the OM's house.

DanF · 07-04-2012, 07:41 AM

Then tell her goodby and let her have him.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno · 07-04-2012, 07:49 AM

lol, giving someone else control over her feelings.
MAKE her fall in love with you?
While she continues to keep in touch with another man, stacking the deck.
How ridiculous is that?
Let her leave!

iheartlife · 07-04-2012, 07:55 AM

Please get the book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass right away. It will help you understand the power of the infatuation she is in.

One week will not turn her around if she is infatuated.

The other books you need are
No More Mr. Nic Guy and
Married Man Sex Life

You will have to exercise 'tough love' to get her head out of the fantasy and back to reality.

Does she work?
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morituri · 07-04-2012, 07:55 AM

Tell her that a cheating wife is not worthy of being fought over and that the OM can have her with your blessings.

Kapla| · 07-04-2012, 08:03 AM

it has not gotten physical and she does havea job but i pay most of the bills. the house comes from her family and all my family live in germany. i really cant leave or cant make her leave.

as tough love how do i do that

Humble Pie · 07-04-2012, 08:04 AM

Your wifes rationale is quiet unique, one that I wouldnt wish upon anyone. Straighten her level of think out by telling her to leave NOW, and that she has 1 week to try and win you back.

snap · 07-04-2012, 08:06 AM

It's not hard to make her leave, she said she'll leave if you don't meet her ultimatum, remember?

Call her on it. Tell her that fighting for someone who despises you sounds like too much work.

Humble Pie · 07-04-2012, 08:06 AM

expose her testimony to her family, let them understand what type of daughter they raised. Who is the house name under, your wife, you and your wife, or your step parents?

Kapla| · 07-04-2012, 08:10 AM

the home is being paid for but the land is in her aunts name

morituri · 07-04-2012, 08:10 AM

Retain a divorce attorney so that he/she can start the paperwork for the filing of divorce. Find an apartment big enough for you and the kids. Once you have one, you and the kids leave her alone and have her served with divorce papers.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno · 07-04-2012, 08:12 AM

As long as you say you "can't leave" she is going to pull these kind of stunts. Because she can. You can do the unexpected by leaving. Let the dust settle where it may.

iheartlife · 07-04-2012, 08:13 AM

You can download the book Not Just Friends. You must educate yourself about emotional affairs.

Do not leave the house, obviously. Is there a mortgage on the house? Is your name on that? Or are you paying for it?

How did you two meet, what are your ages and dating history?
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Henri · 07-04-2012, 08:14 AM

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expose her testimony to her family, let them understand what type of daughter they raised. Who is the house name under, your wife, you and your wife, or your step parents?

Good idea. I would do this in a way of asking for help from them, and avoid any indication that you are angry, aggressive etc. Ask for help as a concerned father and man in love.

Take her away for the weekend, to a hotel or somewhere away from the normal environment e.g. computers/facebook ideally. (Hard if she has a phone). Try to romance her in the evenings. Go for walk with her somewhere private and hold her hand. Don't get angry, ask her to explain in a loving way.

If that doesn't work, then follow the others advice above and make sure you stay in the house with the children. Make notes of everything for legal reasons, all events, try to get a copy of emails/Facebook whatever in case it comes down to law and money at the end of the day.