So have you read the exposure items in the newbie thread? Or is this your own plan.
We are going to be harsh with you and give you 2x4's as many a BS has done a half baked job or followed their own plan , only to fail. Posted via Mobile Device
I am going to expose him but I'm not going to be stupid about it. He still is a dangerous guy anyway you look at it. I asked my brother, who is ex military should I be concerned about this guy or is he full of it. My brother said that from the information he gathered on this guy, the guy actually does have a pretty unique skill set. His advice was to be really cautious. He also explained to me that going to the cops may do more harm than good because it might really send this guy over the edge and its not like I'm in witness protection or its not like I can afford a bodyguard to follow me 24 7. I'm going to stick to my guns and bait him in just enough to screw himself over. Slow and steady wins the race. Patience is a virtue. Posted via Mobile Device
Dear brother, You seem to be a learned and nice person. Why are you using all your knowledge and power to prove something that is not right?
While you are in the waiting room, can't you do anything that is a manly act? (Not like hiding the condoms before he comes or hiding their undergarments after they start their act).
Why should your wife come back to you?
Sorry brother, I am not making fun of you. I feel for you - Please listen to these 7 pages full of advice. People have taken trouble to alert you. Don't just clap when your brother takes the right decisions and makes this gorilla run away.
I am going to expose him but I'm not going to be stupid about it. He still is a dangerous guy anyway you look at it. I asked my brother, who is ex military should I be concerned about this guy or is he full of it. My brother said that from the information he gathered on this guy, the guy actually does have a pretty unique skill set. His advice was to be really cautious. He also explained to me that going to the cops may do more harm than good because it might really send this guy over the edge and its not like I'm in witness protection or its not like I can afford a bodyguard to follow me 24 7. I'm going to stick to my guns and bait him in just enough to screw himself over. Slow and steady wins the race. Patience is a virtue. Posted via Mobile Device
Actually going to cops the filing a police report is the best thing you can do because it puts on record that he is threatening you and has assaulted you.
If he does anything - the cops the will know exactly who did it.
Your wife should be sleeping in the guest bed - not you.
You should be seeking a restraining order against this jerk.
You should be carrying a VAR secretly on you at all times around your wife and him.
You should be removing any access to money she has.
and you should be reporting him to his employer.
you should also post him on Cheaterville.com and consider adding your wife there too.
You think she's going to come out of the fog? Why do you even want her too? She watched another man assault you, and then left with him only to return with him and proceed to let him threaten you etc.
She's not worth having back even after the fog. The fog may make people do bad things, but she went way beyond bad here.
Frankly this story sounds like a cuckold fantasy where eventually the wife will inform you that the OM is going to get her pregnant and you are going to pay for a raise the kid for him.
In my experience, "dangerous guys" tend to have short lifespans because they tend to make many enemies. I believe the POSOM is simply a bully who like all bullies will run to mama once he is forcefully confronted by one or more individuals willing to take him down at all costs. They are not used to becoming prey.
I'm glad to have now more help IRLK to fix this. If you can manage to have them as often as you can do it. Exppulse your wife by having friends at home.
Cutting OM is important with exposure, you have to kill this affair ASAP but OM vanishing won't resolve the main issue here: Your entitled, foggie wife. You need to fix it from the two sides at once. By letting her go, by exposing her, putting all the presure you can on her, making it all too real for her to endure, that's the only chance you got left. She's not going to get out this aleged fog without having very clear bad consequences. THe reality has to hit her hard. Kick your wife from the marital bedroom to begin with, throw that bed yesterday and get a new one. OM doesn't put a foot in your house anymore. Period. Tell your wife, she can move out with him if she wishes, help her pack and drove her there. Regain your house. Yesterday. Change the locks if necessary. Tell her to go to OM, she's more than free. Lawyer up ASAP, filing for divorce is not the end necessarily. All this seems counterintuitive but it what only works. You have to let her go and start making the consequences very evident. That's the only whing wich can make her re-examine her actions and the way she percive reality. Be calm but very decisive, determined to end this limbo hell and move on with your liffe. Shock her with this.
Start hitting her with the reality. You have been very very pasive.
Hard 180, lawyers, exposure in both fronts, clear consquences, no fear to lose her. Moving on with your life, regaining self respect...
With no rest.
Assuming that your wife knows about your brother being ex-Military, is it possible that your wife is tipping off the OM, so that the OM with his "special skill set" is gathering intel on your brother for a possible confrontation with your brother?
Can I crawl a little before you ask me to walk? My wife isn't going anywhere. Once this guy is exposed she will snap out of her fog. Trust me. Posted via Mobile Device
Ask yourself why in the world you would want her back.
Maybe your ego is taking over your common sense at the moment & you're trying to get her back from the OM.
IMHO, no WS is worth that level of blind devotion.
You deserve to be treated better than this, no one should put up with the outright disrespect you have been shown.
Actually going to cops the filing a police report is the best thing you can do because it puts on record that he is threatening you and has assaulted you.
If he does anything - the cops the will know exactly who did it.
Your wife should be sleeping in the guest bed - not you.
You should be seeking a restraining order against this jerk.
You should be carrying a VAR secretly on you at all times around your wife and him.
You should be removing any access to money she has.
and you should be reporting him to his employer.
you should also post him on Cheaterville.com and consider adding your wife there too.
You think she's going to come out of the fog? Why do you even want her too? She watched another man assault you, and then left with him only to return with him and proceed to let him threaten you etc.
She's not worth having back even after the fog. The fog may make people do bad things, but she went way beyond bad here.
Frankly this story sounds like a cuckold fantasy where eventually the wife will inform you that the OM is going to get her pregnant and you are going to pay for a raise the kid for him.
My wife had her ovaries removed over a year ago due to a medical condition. Thanks for making pregnant jokes. It really makes me feel a lot better. Posted via Mobile Device
The gym owner is a good target for exposure. He takes adventage of clients, beating client's spouses, treaten the gym reputation, this is a bussiness, treaten lawsuit, make him get fired. All at once.
You have to make the affair something not appeal to mantain, for both WW and OM.
Let's see: 1) You're living in a home owned by your wife's dad; 2) OM screwed your wife in your bed and then beat your ass; 3) OM comes and goes as he pleases in 'your' home; 4) Wife has no respect for you; 5) You put up with all this sh!t.
If this isn't a troll story then you're the world's biggest doormat.
Assuming that your wife knows about your brother being ex-Military, is it possible that your wife is tipping off the OM, so that the OM with his "special skill set" is gathering intel on your brother for a possible confrontation with your brother?
This is not a good situation.
This guy dosent have a clue who my brother is. He never met him. He is a greaseball who preys on huting women. My brother dosent associate with those kids of people. Posted via Mobile Device
I am going to expose him but I'm not going to be stupid about it. He still is a dangerous guy anyway you look at it. I asked my brother, who is ex military should I be concerned about this guy or is he full of it. My brother said that from the information he gathered on this guy, the guy actually does have a pretty unique skill set. His advice was to be really cautious. He also explained to me that going to the cops may do more harm than good because it might really send this guy over the edge and its not like I'm in witness protection or its not like I can afford a bodyguard to follow me 24 7. I'm going to stick to my guns and bait him in just enough to screw himself over. Slow and steady wins the race. Patience is a virtue. Posted via Mobile Device
Your attitude needs to change,I said dynamite comes in small packages.
So be it,settle the score,to secure pieces and prepare for war! Dont tread on me!! Posted via Mobile Device
She was more intimidated by the response his brother would have, which goes to show how much respect she has for own her husband. And it also suggests that his brother wouldn't put up with this nonsense hence her walking on egg shells around him. Whether someone wants to bring up the Alpha Vs Beta argument, the OP's game plan is not working.
Exposure doesn't mean lifting the fog, it means making the affair harder.
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