Usually in this domestic violence/abuse situations the one who makes the call first will have the advantage. Multiply bt 10 if a woman makes such a call.
Especially in florida. Men basically are second class citizens in the eyes of law enforcement. Posted via Mobile Device
First off stop looking at this a getting screwed over but rather the price you need to pay to get free from cheating wife.
So are you going to file a complaint with the PD?
Have you canceled all the credit cards and cell, and any other services other then utilities?
Are you going to expose this to the OMs work and family?
I called and spoke to the PD and they said they will look into it but says that the female officer was just "following protocol". Whatever I'm not gonna consume myself with that. I have bigger fish to fry. Posted via Mobile Device
So I transferred half of my money into another checking account this morning. She has mobile banking so whenever there is any major transactions with the account she gets a text alert on her phone. She calls me and asks if I did it and I tell her yes. She starts yelling and saying that I am selfish and taking food off of the table for my kids. I tell her no I'm just not going to let her dictate what I spend my money on from now on. She hung up on me. Then I get a call from her dad and he starts telling me that I'm immature and I need to grow up. I asked him what he would do if he were in my situation and he replies" I would never be in your situation because I am responsible man and I take full accountability for my own actions". I told him I recognized my mistakes by not being there for her but she won't let me prove that I'm all she needs and more. So he says "well you prove that by not acting like a child and taking money out of the bank account just to be spiteful". I honestly didn't do it to be spiteful. I did it because I wanted to start separating myself from her. So now I look even more evil than before while she's being treated like the damsel in distress. Go figure. Posted via Mobile Device
Ok, at what point are you going to consider telling her father to STFU and have some shame on having raised a wh.... ??
Seriously dude, it's not bad enough your wife doing this stuff and you still take crap from her daddy? What the hell??!! Time to go to LION MODE:
You seem to aways be on the fence and unsure about everything. That attitude right now isn't really healthy. You need to defend what's yours and do it FOR REAL.
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I called and spoke to the PD and they said they will look into it but says that the female officer was just "following protocol".
Did you asked if the protocol said specifically "if male then guilty"?
I agree with costa, who the fck cares what her daddy thinks of ou, he's already shown you where his loyalty lies, he's part of the other camp. Now that you know this you can tell him to shove it, zip it, etc whatever because it does not involve him. You didn't marry him and his name is not on your marriage certificate, nor will it be on the divorce certificate.
And I would advise that only abusive men are viewed by police officers as second class... so don't appear abusive to them, just keep your cool if you have any more run ins.
so her father is going to stand beside princess no matter what, so realize that and stop taking calls from him. Dude won't give you a fair hearing, so stop wasting time with him.
Get that lawyer working for you.
meanwhile - hit the CC and if you have direct pay from work - stop it going to the joint account.
Hey, you are in a battle with your wife because she cheated.
NOTE; SHE CHEATED.
The next time her Dad calls tell him that this would not have happened unless HIS DAUGHTER WENT AND HAD SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE, WHILE HER CHILDREN, HIS GRANDCHILDREN WERE AT HOME WITH THEIR FATHER.
Hey, you are in a battle with your wife because she cheated.
NOTE; SHE CHEATED.
The next time her Dad calls tell him that this would not have happened unless HIS DAUGHTER WENT AND HAD SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE, WHILE HER CHILDREN, HIS GRANDCHILDREN WERE AT HOME WITH THEIR FATHER.
And then asked why he did not teach her morality. You can blameshift this on him too.
Don't move out of your house. Go to Best Buy and buy a handful of video cameras and install them all over your house set to record to a DVR SOMEWHERE ELSE! Go back home today or you'll have set a precedent and you won't get back in. Bring some friends with you; ask them to just hang out at the house for free food for a few days. Let her see you aren't backing down.
You need to put this back on the father. Whenever he calls, be direct. Tell him that his daughter is screwing another man. Tell him directly that you won't tolerate cheating, that you are protecting yourself.
Ask him what he is doing to stop her affair. Tell him that as long as his daughter is screwing another man, their is no point in him calling you.
BRAVO! You now have implemented a consequence of her cruel and selfish betrayal. Let the OM and her father pay all of her financial needs. She may hate your guts but deep down she knows she deserves what you did.
ok caughtup now. J, you mean to tell us you are letting this pos walk around still without doing anything?? F**k the house, dad owns it. shut down all financials she has access to. then get the ball rolling on exposing his a** and her. you owe this woman nothing now. I live in So. Fl. and know where the big gators lay, so I never worry, cause I am polar cold when crossed. this is something you need now too. your fantasy of R, is just that. her and dad will always look at you like a cucks paycheck from now on. NO, I am not telling you to do anything violent, some just don.t have that in themselves, but you really do need to start playing like you don't give a damn anymore. Some guy tell you he can hit you at 500, an you fold, where did you grow up man ?? you can not be from here.
What your W or FIL think is immaterial right now. This is about you and your kids. You didn't abandon her (something you would have been well within your rights to do), she had you removed from the marital home. That her father is taking her side in this mess, knowing what he does, lends wisdom to the saying that "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree..."
Get an interim maintenance order in place for your kids, and don't give her a cent more than you legally have to.
Well done about protecting your financial interests the way you have done!
So I transferred half of my money into another checking account this morning. She has mobile banking so whenever there is any major transactions with the account she gets a text alert on her phone. She calls me and asks if I did it and I tell her yes. She starts yelling and saying that I am selfish and taking food off of the table for my kids. I tell her no I'm just not going to let her dictate what I spend my money on from now on. She hung up on me. Then I get a call from her dad and he starts telling me that I'm immature and I need to grow up. I asked him what he would do if he were in my situation and he replies" I would never be in your situation because I am responsible man and I take full accountability for my own actions". I told him I recognized my mistakes by not being there for her but she won't let me prove that I'm all she needs and more. So he says "well you prove that by not acting like a child and taking money out of the bank account just to be spiteful". I honestly didn't do it to be spiteful. I did it because I wanted to start separating myself from her. So now I look even more evil than before while she's being treated like the damsel in distress. Go figure. Posted via Mobile Device
Don't take anything seriously that her daddy says. Dads are completely blind to their daughter's faults in these situations. As the old saying goes, "Blood is thicker than water." Just cut off all contact with the guy as he'll side with his daughter no matter what.
You're not doing this just to be spiteful. You're beating her to the punch, because she likely would have cleared out the ENTIRE balance. I would also call all of your credit card companies to put holds on those accounts. My ex tried to rack up huge credit card debt when we separated, but I put a hold on all the accounts and had them mail me new cards with new account numbers.
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