Well I followed the advice that was given to me on here. Last night I confronted my wife and explained to her that I will no longer permit OM to come and go as he pleases as long as my kids and I are in the house. She basically tried to tell me that I don't have much of a choice because my name isn't on the morgatge. WRONG! I know my rights. She then told me "I don't wanna talk about this right now". I told her too bad. Either she call him and tell him that he's not allowed over here or I will call her dad and expose her immediately. She then grabbed the tv remote and turned the volume up super loud to try to drown me out. I calmly walked over to the tv and unplugged it. She then said "get out of my room or ill call the cops on you". At this point I laughed and said calling the cops is a waste of time because I did nothing wrong. She then replied "you are assaulting me". I replied HOW!? So she grabs her phone and walks outside. I slam the door behind her and just go watch tv in the guestroom. I wasn't worried about the cops because I had the VAR on me the whole time!! Like 10 minutes later she comes back inside with a male and a female cop. The guy cop tells me to come into the kitchen with him and answer some questions. He asks me why did I threaten my wife!! I told him that I NEVER threatened her I just told her I'm not going to put up with her cheating ways anymore. I then told him about the VAR and he was cool about. He listened to some of it and told me to hold on a minute and went to talk to the female cop. Then he and the female cop asked me to come outside with them and chat. I already knew this wasn't a good sign because this woman looked like she hated men just because. Anyway once I got outside the guy cop explains that I did nothing to be arrested but he thinks it would be a good idea if I found another place to stay for the night. I try to explain that I pay the bills in the house so why do I have to leave MY home? The female cop then says "sir we aren't asking you to leave, we are TELLING you to leave or else you will be arrested". So I left and ended up paying 80 bucks for a hotel room. Honestly I was too embarassed to call friends or family. This morning I get a call from her dad asking me "why did I assault his daughter"? WTF!!! I told him EVERYTHING. I didn't hold anything back at all. And his response was" well just give her some space and let her clear her head. Just don't go back to the house until she's comfortable with you being there". So here I am. I missed work today because I have been too busy looking for an affordable lawyer. I should have went with my gut and waited it out. Oh well I guess now I know that ***** is not the same woman I married. I think its time for war and now I'm gonna do things my way. Posted via Mobile Device
This is exactly what happens when the BS is the one fighting to stay married. If you really want to fix this you will have to file for divorce. If there's any chance, then that might wake her up. And if there is no chance then at least that will speed up the break up.
Well I followed the advice that was given to me on here. Last night I confronted my wife and explained to her that I will no longer permit OM to come and go as he pleases as long as my kids and I are in the house. She basically tried to tell me that I don't have much of a choice because my name isn't on the morgatge. WRONG! I know my rights. She then told me "I don't wanna talk about this right now". I told her too bad. Either she call him and tell him that he's not allowed over here or I will call her dad and expose her immediately. She then grabbed the tv remote and turned the volume up super loud to try to drown me out. I calmly walked over to the tv and unplugged it. She then said "get out of my room or ill call the cops on you". At this point I laughed and said calling the cops is a waste of time because I did nothing wrong. She then replied "you are assaulting me". I replied HOW!? So she grabs her phone and walks outside. I slam the door behind her and just go watch tv in the guestroom. I wasn't worried about the cops because I had the VAR on me the whole time!! Like 10 minutes later she comes back inside with a male and a female cop. The guy cop tells me to come into the kitchen with him and answer some questions. He asks me why did I threaten my wife!! I told him that I NEVER threatened her I just told her I'm not going to put up with her cheating ways anymore. I then told him about the VAR and he was cool about. He listened to some of it and told me to hold on a minute and went to talk to the female cop. Then he and the female cop asked me to come outside with them and chat. I already knew this wasn't a good sign because this woman looked like she hated men just because. Anyway once I got outside the guy cop explains that I did nothing to be arrested but he thinks it would be a good idea if I found another place to stay for the night. I try to explain that I pay the bills in the house so why do I have to leave MY home? The female cop then says "sir we aren't asking you to leave, we are TELLING you to leave or else you will be arrested". So I left and ended up paying 80 bucks for a hotel room. Honestly I was too embarassed to call friends or family. This morning I get a call from her dad asking me "why did I assault his daughter"? WTF!!! I told him EVERYTHING. I didn't hold anything back at all. And his response was" well just give her some space and let her clear her head. Just don't go back to the house until she's comfortable with you being there". So here I am. I missed work today because I have been too busy looking for an affordable lawyer. I should have went with my gut and waited it out. Oh well I guess now I know that ***** is not the same woman I married. I think its time for war and now I'm gonna do things my way. Posted via Mobile Device
This was going to happen sooner or later. Take care of the kids, get a divorce and move on. There is nothing to save here except making sure that kids are not f*cked up
Keep the VARs recordings and make copies of them. Contact an attorney and have him/her file a complaint on your behalf to the police department internal affairs department or chief of police where the female police officer works. The reason is that since your wife was able to get the police to come to the house and kick you out, she'll again try this tactic in the future. If there is another encounter with the police, and the same female officer arrives at the scene, she may think twice about kicking you out again or trying to falsely arrest you. And this will also protect you in case of divorce where she claims that you were abusing her. You can prove to the judge that she is lying and that the police officer exceeded her authority by showing a copy of the complaint filed against the police officer and any other replies from the internal affairs department or chief of police.
Keep the VARs recordings and make copies of them. Contact an attorney and have him/her file a complaint on your behalf to the police department internal affairs department or chief of police where the female police officer works. The reason is that since your wife was able to get the police to come to the house and kick you out, she'll again try this tactic in the future. If there is another encounter with the police, and the same female officer arrives at the scene, she may think twice about kicking you out again or trying to falsely arrest you. And this will also protect you in case of divorce where she claims that you were abusing her. You can prove to the judge that she is lying and that the police officer exceeded her authority by showing a copy of the complaint filed against the police officer and any other replies from the internal affairs department or chief of police.
Just make sure you have dead on evidence of what happened, and the report where you were told by the police to leave----this is gonna be an ugly D., and do not put it past your wife, to go after you for ABANDONMENT---now that you have left the home
Keep copies of everything from now on---and stop paying any bills,
Get all money into an acct. with your name on it, only---stop any insurances you cover her with---you know where her family stands---just get your D., and get away from her.
FYI Listen to morituri he knows this stuff cold from the inside.
Good job on the var. play it for the attorney you talk to and tell him your goals.
1. To move back into your home
2. Notify the police dept that your wife is filing false claims with them, that you have her on a var admitting to this
3. You want a RO against the OM, to keep him away from you, the kids, and family home
4. Inform the father in law that he may own the place, but YOU are the person living there. If he wans to make you move out, he must evict you which will include your children.
5. Seek full custody, but be willing to negotiate down to 50%
6. Cut off ALL her access to cash and credit TODAY
7. You buy the food and stuff the kids need, plus keep all receipts.
8. Dump the bed she used with OM in the trash. She can sleep on the floor. Posted via Mobile Device
File for divorce but get your butt back into the house. They were not going to arrest you. They had nothing to go on. If you are out she can make a case for you not going back in. Take her Dad iwth you and keep the VAR going.
Does the OM have someone you can confront parents ect...... Make sure you do not raise a hand and do not make threats.
So she kicked you out of the house and you luckily escaped from staying in jail. We told you this earlier that your wife is not the Angel you married, you told us we dont know anything. We are seeing a lot of this every day.
Now its you turn to fight for your kids and save them from this POS. See the lawyer and file for D.
Oh well I guess now I know that ***** is not the same woman I married. I think its time for war and now I'm gonna do things my way.
So you finally opened your eyes to what we've been telling you as far what your wife truly is: a selfish, cruel, dishonest woman who cares nothing for you nor her kids.
Just a heads up. Being Military law enforcement, I want to clear something up. A lot of departments have mandatory procedures they have to follow when responding to a domestic call, and splitting the couple up for a 24 cool down procedure is the norm.
That being said, if she was unprofessional then have at her. But I would check with the PD that responded to your house about thief procedures. You can call or go see the watch commander or desk sergant on duty, they can clear that up for you. Having a complaint in against a cop might not help her attitude towards you in the future if you have future dealings with her where you need that good grace... Keep in mind a lot of female cops are harda$$es because they have to be on the job to get respect Posted via Mobile Device
Had you gone to the authorities as we all advised you to, you could have prevented this from happening. Instead, you laid yourself wide open to a false allegation of domestic violence, and it's my guess she will endeavour to use that against you in any divorce proceedings.
Get yourself the best lawyer you can afford as soon as possible.
Keep the VARs recordings and make copies of them. Contact an attorney and have him/her file a complaint on your behalf to the police department internal affairs department or chief of police where the female police officer works. The reason is that since your wife was able to get the police to come to the house and kick you out, she'll again try this tactic in the future. If there is another encounter with the police, and the same female officer arrives at the scene, she may think twice about kicking you out again or trying to falsely arrest you. And this will also protect you in case of divorce where she claims that you were abusing her. You can prove to the judge that she is lying and that the police officer exceeded her authority by showing a copy of the complaint filed against the police officer and any other replies from the internal affairs department or chief of police.
After speaking with a couple of lawyers with all due respect to women, this whole "womens rights" issue has gone way too far. Seriously this country is on its way to hell. I basically have to spend thousands of dollars out of my hard earned money just to PROVE that I'm a worthy father for my kids, but she is already assumed to be a good mother and dosent have to spend a dime. Wtf. I couldn't give a **** about OM right now. Nows its just about my kids and my dignity. God forgive me for saying this but if this woman got hit by a bus right now and died I wouldn't give a ****.I have been the bigger man and have taken the high road all of this time only to be ****ed over by my wife and when I try to get advice from someone who wouldn't judge me I end up being called a "troll" etc. Dude if u don't believe my story then get the **** off of my thread. Seriously you don't have to be here. Go read a book or something. I'm not here for your amusement. And for those who are truley trying to help thank you. Please excuse my language but I am really stressed right now. Posted via Mobile Device
Glad to hear it. Go dark on her. Don't engage in any way, shape or form. Protect your self ASAP. Forget about FIL, he will follow her every step. SHARK agressive of lawyer, dad's advocate.
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