07-12-2012, 04:51 AM
Join Date: Jul 2012
| | Re: I guess a full 180 is in order...
Originally Posted by Crazytown
I've complained numerous times in my previous posts that I'm dealing with an essentially unremorseful spouse.
I'm just getting sick of this whole deal. I know that I have to hang in there at least until I finish school (and can flee the state to avoid his crazy making lol) but it's just such a joke. I know that I am dealing with a possibly P.D. person or just one who is so immature and incapable of change. But, it's frustrating.
In MC today WH was given an assignment of sorts. He was told that EVERY day he should ask himself several times per day if he had shown any remorse that day, or any kind, loving words, or expression of happiness that he was getting a 2nd chance etc. I will be cautiously optimistic about this, but honestly I am not holding my breath.
He doesn't GET it and doesn't care to get it. Every week he puts on a show in MC and then the rest of the week...NOTHING. No bringing IT up, no remorse, angry and defensive any time I even remotely bring anything up...and basically just business as usual...
I am just going to live my life and look for happiness where I can. He has proven himself to not be a full partner in many ways and certainly not one in overcoming his infidelity. If I didn't "need" him right now and if I didn't have the horrible taste in my mouth of how he treated me during our separation (and what he exposed our children to...) there is no doubt in my mind that I would boot him out the door for good.
I'm just sad today, coming to terms with my reality and just venting... thanks for listening...
Wow, that is almost exactly what has and what is happing to me. My W never showed true remorse from her Affairs. When I would bring up to her if she can do certain things for me, many times she would get very defensive and resentful. One of the main problems with my wife is that, with us, she has a bad attitude with just about everything.
I too am slowly coming to grips that if her and I do not work, that life goes on, I am still a great person no matter what crap she put me and our kids through.