DawnD

Hey everyone. I posted last about out anniversary trip that we were going to take to Las Vegas for our 10th anniversary. It was a blast. We had an awesome time.

One of the things I am noticing is that my trust in my H is building more and more. Its interesting, because as most of you know, at one time ( and for a long time) I was questioning if I could ever even consider trusting him again. Keep in mind I don't have that blind trust for him, but I feel like the trust I do have has been growing and building more lately.

We had our family out in Vegas with us, but only managed to get someone to watch the kiddos for one night so we could go out and do something "adult" out in town. The day everyone left, I knew my hubby was really itching to go play blackjack, and I wanted to see some more of the sights. And it so easily happened that I took the kids with me so he could play. It seemed so easy to part ways for a couple of hours and do our seperate thing. I didn't really know if I would ever get there completely. Obviously we had spent time apart since his A ( a whole deployment) but I was very anxious most of the time. I can feel my anxiety getting better, I am not stressed out about him when he is out, and I am enjoying myself. I have noticed it more this past 4 months.

I don't think this is specifically due to the amount of time it has been since Dday, but more of how far both of us have come individually in that time. I went back to school since both my boys started full time school as well, got a degree plan in place that I am absolutely in love with, and his counseling for his PTSD has gone so well. He is almost another person now with all the help he has received. Communication is really a lot better, and we both feel we can speak openly about anything that might be going on or bothering us. A few months shy of three years from Dday, and we are making good progress.

Best wishes to all of you out there dealing with infidelity.

jessi

Posted via Mobile Device

jessi

Dawnd

Nice to read an update from you
I think we had the same sort of timeline
It's great your hubby has embraced all the help and has grown as a person, I hope school is going well
Just keep plugging away at your new marriage and one day you won't even remember any bad times.
So happy for you two and your family
Jessi
Posted via Mobile Device

DawnD

Jessi -- so nice to hear from you on here. How are things going with you and the H?? I think you are right, we were basically riding the same train at the same time :-)

I actually had to come in a while back and delete my older postings. they were soo full of raw emotion that it would trigger me. I can now tell my story easily, but reading my original posts were so difficult that I had to get them out of there.

SomedayDig

I feel it is a true testament to both the BS and WS in your story here. Trust is taken so abruptly when infidelity is exposed that it is seemingly impossible that it will ever return. Unless, that is, both parties try their hardest. A WS must absolutely be willing to do everything in their power to prove themselves. It is not ever to be taken lightly and most certainly never be taken for granted. The result of the slightest slip up can be catastrophic. I am glad to read that you and your husband had a good vacation. It is good to hear!

DawnD

Dig -- there have been slips, and there have been falls. But the progress we made kept slowly getting to cover more areas. I do think that it is fairly accurate to say the repair can take 2-5 years. We are almost 3 years out, and even with as much progress we have made, I know there is still some left for even me personally to make. But knowing that is half the battle :P

SomedayDig

You are absolutely correct. Knowing that this is going to be the toughest battle we as a married couple will ever face actually makes it a bit less daunting.