07-16-2012, 10:08 AM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Feeling the trust build more...
Hey everyone. I posted last about out anniversary trip that we were going to take to Las Vegas for our 10th anniversary. It was a blast. We had an awesome time.
One of the things I am noticing is that my trust in my H is building more and more. Its interesting, because as most of you know, at one time ( and for a long time) I was questioning if I could ever even consider trusting him again. Keep in mind I don't have that blind trust for him, but I feel like the trust I do have has been growing and building more lately.
We had our family out in Vegas with us, but only managed to get someone to watch the kiddos for one night so we could go out and do something "adult" out in town. The day everyone left, I knew my hubby was really itching to go play blackjack, and I wanted to see some more of the sights. And it so easily happened that I took the kids with me so he could play. It seemed so easy to part ways for a couple of hours and do our seperate thing. I didn't really know if I would ever get there completely. Obviously we had spent time apart since his A ( a whole deployment) but I was very anxious most of the time. I can feel my anxiety getting better, I am not stressed out about him when he is out, and I am enjoying myself. I have noticed it more this past 4 months.
I don't think this is specifically due to the amount of time it has been since Dday, but more of how far both of us have come individually in that time. I went back to school since both my boys started full time school as well, got a degree plan in place that I am absolutely in love with, and his counseling for his PTSD has gone so well. He is almost another person now with all the help he has received. Communication is really a lot better, and we both feel we can speak openly about anything that might be going on or bothering us. A few months shy of three years from Dday, and we are making good progress.
Best wishes to all of you out there dealing with infidelity.