Re: The BS does all the work!
I have been given the ILYB speech in October. Since found out that husband was fb and texting OW. All contact has stopped
Please don't shoot the messenger. Given what you have posted here, I sincerely doubt that all contact has stopped.
husband has refused to come or consider any MC.
I feel I am doing all the work but recieving very little in return.
It is only since Feb that H has started holding me, hugging etc. and sex only resumed back in March but very infrequently. I have done the sexy texts, pics, lingerie, toys etc. It is me that initiates every time and H has asked me to stop most of the time because he is tired or does not want to.
These are all right out of the cheater's playbook.
When I have asked him about this he states he still finds me attractive etc
Talk is cheap. And when it comes out of a cheater's mouth, usually a lie.
Any insight help, advice? Thanks
Your husband is having an affair with the other woman. This is textbook behavior, following the cheater's script to a T.
Try to figure out when, where, and how he is meeting with and talking to the other woman. Put a voice-activated recorder in his car, keylog his computer, look around to see if you can find a burner phone.
Even if he is not cheating on you, and I am saying that only to humor you, because I really feel strongly that he is, but even if he is not, why is he staying married to you? Why would he want to live in a sexless, passionless marriage with a woman he supposedly is attracted to but never wants to have sex with or show affection to? Why not divorce?
The reason is because he is having an affair, spending all that love and sex and affection somewhere else, and using you to hold down the home front, provide stability, take care of the kids (if you have them), etc. Does any other explanation make sense given what you have posted here?