It WW is used to living on 85+250K she will find it very very hard to live on 85K.
Especially if it falls on her shoulders to take care of OM should they shack-up. And, unless I'm mixing-up threads, I believe this particular OM is broke.
Sorry man. It's horrible. I hope WW and OM get banned from you circle of friends. Those total sociopaths deserve each other.
I don't get what can possily want to say to you OM.
And of course she wants to try, HA! How are you going to manage the adoption piece?
Sorry man. It's horrible. I hope WW and OM get banned from you circle of friends. Those total sociopaths deserve each other.
I don't get what can possily want to say to you OM.
And of course she wants to try, HA! How are you going to manage the adoption piece?
My guess is that they knew already, and thought he did, too. Tell them otherwise. That'll be interesting.
wtf?!?! is this fiction or something. i skimmed through a few pages and you are one calm guy for this slap in the face. i made one mistake and i feel like **** but your wife and best friend? how are you so calm?
It was a rough day. I had a couple small breakdowns throughout the day. Shopping for sheets, a pillow and a towel just so I can exist in the old empty house was particularly rough. I'll post a full recount of the confrontation tomorrow in hopes that someone can learn or benefit from it in the future. Everything you all said would happen happened. I don't know how I mustered the courage to stay strong through it, but I felt really prepared from what I learned here.
I have called a bunch of our common friends to let them know what happened. All were shocked. All want to hurt both my STBxW and the OM. I think I might be able to find contact info for the OM's GF. I think you are all right. She deserves to know.
I'm trying to line up dinners and meetings with friends, etc for the next few days to keep myself busy. I will rebuild myself - stronger, better, faster
I hate to say it, but W will walk away with about half a million before any spousal support, which I'll probably have to pay for 5 years. If she wants to, she'll have no trouble supporting both of them for a while. But that won't last forever at the rate she likes to spend. Posted via Mobile Device
It was a rough day. I had a couple small breakdowns throughout the day. Shopping for sheets, a pillow and a towel just so I can exist in the old empty house was particularly rough. I'll post a full recount of the confrontation tomorrow in hopes that someone can learn or benefit from it in the future. Everything you all said would happen happened. I don't know how I mustered the courage to stay strong through it, but I felt really prepared from what I learned here.
I have called a bunch of our common friends to let them know what happened. All were shocked. All want to hurt both my STBxW and the OM. I think I might be able to find contact info for the OM's GF. I think you are all right. She deserves to know.
I'm trying to line up dinners and meetings with friends, etc for the next few days to keep myself busy. I will rebuild myself - stronger, better, faster
I hate to say it, but W will walk away with about half a million before any spousal support, which I'll probably have to pay for 5 years. If she wants to, she'll have no trouble supporting both of them for a while. But that won't last forever at the rate she likes to spend. Posted via Mobile Device
dude this is sick. maybe if she is remorseful, she won't want to take your money? maybe place nice and trick her into agreeing to a nice divorce? beg her if you have to.
Take heart my friend. they are dirt to your other friends now. The putting back together the old place will gie you something to do, beside wollow in the slop trough they built.
I think you should get your lawyer to draw up a smaller settlement than that. Say 65/35. You are a bizman, you know everything is negotiable. Also you will get a sense of how much she just wanted to trap you with a kids anyway she could.
Remember, he's going to try to approach you now that he see that you won't hit him back up. But there is no reason for you to lower yourself to talk to him. He wants to justify, but if you are not falling for it, and he see everyone dumping his butt, it will turn to anger. Also he will probably blame her. Saying she seduced him.
So remember "if a cheaters lips are moving, they are lying".
I have called a bunch of our common friends to let them know what happened. All were shocked. All want to hurt both my STBxW and the OM. I think I might be able to find contact info for the OM's GF. I think you are all right. She deserves to know.
I'm trying to line up dinners and meetings with friends, etc for the next few days to keep myself busy. I will rebuild myself - stronger, better, faster
Be with your well wishers for some time from now on until you can be alone.
I hate to say that it will be hard. While I do know that you prepared for this, actually going through this is really hard, dude.
The hard times will pass, and you will emerge stronger.
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Originally Posted by bff
I hate to say it, but W will walk away with about half a million before any spousal support, which I'll probably have to pay for 5 years. If she wants to, she'll have no trouble supporting both of them for a while. But that won't last forever at the rate she likes to spend. Posted via Mobile Device
Oh. BFF, Move on. It is infidelity of your wife that matters most.
dude this is sick. maybe if she is remorseful, she won't want to take your money? maybe place nice and trick her into agreeing to a nice divorce? beg her if you have to.
It's not that kind of remorse It's the person who had no problem cheating for much (all) of their marriage on his payroll, remember.
And no don't beg. Money come and go, but this humiliation will stay with you for years.
You have to do whatever is necessary for you to recover. You will get through all of this crap -- though at the moment you don't see that. Time is your friend -- and the more time that passes, the less pain you will be in.
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Re: wife and best friend having (at least) an EA 
It's the person who had no problem cheating for much (all) of their marriage on his payroll, remember.
