08-05-2012, 07:23 AM
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: New York
| | Re: wife and best friend having (at least) an EA
Originally Posted by bff
It was a rough day. I had a couple small breakdowns throughout the day. Shopping for sheets, a pillow and a towel just so I can exist in the old empty house was particularly rough. I'll post a full recount of the confrontation tomorrow in hopes that someone can learn or benefit from it in the future. Everything you all said would happen happened. I don't know how I mustered the courage to stay strong through it, but I felt really prepared from what I learned here.
I have called a bunch of our common friends to let them know what happened. All were shocked. All want to hurt both my STBxW and the OM. I think I might be able to find contact info for the OM's GF. I think you are all right. She deserves to know.
I'm trying to line up dinners and meetings with friends, etc for the next few days to keep myself busy. I will rebuild myself - stronger, better, faster
I hate to say it, but W will walk away with about half a million before any spousal support, which I'll probably have to pay for 5 years. If she wants to, she'll have no trouble supporting both of them for a while. But that won't last forever at the rate she likes to spend. Posted via Mobile Device
Wow BFF I was I was married to you and I am a guy! LOL!
I am glad that you are doing ok. I wish you had at least asked your wife to stay at the old house or dropped her off at your "best" friends with her suitcases but hey you did great.
And I try my hardest to keep the alimony and assets as low as possible to her. She could not even give you honesty these past few years.
But I also agree getting away from her as fast as you can so you take what you get and you walk away from this mess you did not create.
My prayers are for you today.