Re: Do I confront my husband's girlfriend?
Samantha, he lied to you. He said "just friends" and they have professed their love to each other. First, get the book "Not Just Friends" and read it. He needs to read it as well. He is deleting texts between the two of them. He is hiding his activities. If there was nothing going on, there would be no need for secrecy. Now, you can either tell her that he's been lying to her and that you are very much together, and expecting your second child together. Or, you can tell him you know about the texts, specifically the one where he professed his love to her, etc. You can give him the choice of his family or this woman. One or the other. Don't worry about making him mad. HE is in the wrong here, NOT YOU! If he says he wants you, then he is to go NC. There is to be a letter and he tells her the truth...that he is married and is no longer going to be speaking to her. She is removed, and BLOCKED from his cell phone. She is removed and BLOCKED from email. And, she is removed and BLOCKED from Facebook. And, I would even go so far as to say NO chat programs on his cell. Period. You get all his passwords (allow him to have yours as well, lead by example). If you see her number on the cell bill after that point... kick him out. You do NOT have to live with this stress.
Seriously, don't let the possibility of him getting angry prevent you from doing the right thing.
You can use the 2x4 without adding nails to it.