04-26-2009, 07:31 PM
Join Date: Nov 2008
| | Re: How will I handle when my child wants to play with OW kids?
WOW Reidqa....not everything in life is black and white like that. I don't think the original poster is being dramatic by any stretch of the imagination. She's trying to deal the best she can in the midst of circumstances that are out of her control right now. Not everyone is able to just pack up and leave because they want to....don't you think that she wants that more than anything right now?
I don't personally know her financial circumstances, but many, many Americans cannot sell their houses right now for numerous reasons. For example, many people find themselves in the unfortunate place of owing more on their mortgages than they can sell their house for. You must be fortunate to be in the position that you can sell your house tomorrow, for a profit, and reestablish your family without a second thought or penalty.
Whatever her finances are, or whatever her reasons for not being able to move are, THAT is not what she is asking here. And I think the only one bringing any "drama classes" to the discussion is you.
Fairydust - I truly feel for you and your situation. I could not supervise my children while they are playing with her children and she is present. Are these the only kids on your block for your children to play with? I understand not wanting to take away from your children, or involve them in what has happened. They should be able to play and be kids, but I don't really see much of a way around this. Either you have a discussion with her husband in that the kids can play together at your house or in your yard while under your supervision and you want no contact or run-ins with the wife, or unfortunately the kids cannot play together. You may have to go through the extra efforts to bring in other friends for playdates and just avoid that family all together.
I don't know if any of this is actually do-able. I just wanted you to know that reasonable people feel for you and your situation and in NO WAY believe you are doing anything more than the best you can do.