I have tried searching the courts database, and tried searching newspapers and havent come up with anything. I was just hoping someone had another idea. I am not going to drive 8 hours to go up and talk to her for something that A. I am 99.9 % percent sure is crap and B. I have gotten nothing but lies about anyways.
Let's see what she has done
She let OM stay at our house for three weeks while I was gone.
She took him, my stepson and her to Disneyland. I saw pics of her kissing this guy on the cheek
Found a opened pill gone morning after pill package in one of our vehicles along with the receipt dated the day after she got back from Disneyland
My step son asked me why mommy was kissing OM and said she loved him.
Found pregnancy tests with two gone that she bought a week and a half before I got home
After multiple confrontations, I gave her the ultimatum, he goes or I do. She proclaims theirs nothing going on. She continues to see him. So I leave her
That's just the highlights. But you can see why I think this is all crap. Posted via Mobile Device
I think you are right to be skeptical. And really, if it is true that she was assaulted, what does that have to do with the cheating and all the other head games that she has been playing on you? You are well rid of her.
I had an American wife from a farm town in Ohio. We moved to Fulda Germany, while I was out on WarGames, she did what your wife did but with many, many different GI's. I do not talk to American women unless I have to now. I have a fine German wife and three wonderful children now. Maybe after you heal yourself you can go out into the world and find someone stronger and better. Good luck.
First, thanks for your service. You will find many deployed people here.
In my opinion, uninformed because I do not know her, the sexual assault story was a try at constructing a narrative that would excuse, explain or mitigate what she did.
Cheating wives and girlfriends are maybe the most common sources of false rape claims. This is just a variation on that. Being vague about it does not make it believable to me. After all you're been through and what you know she did, why would she withhold details of that from you? Details are credibility.
She just got a sudden idea to try to get you back, but could not make up a story quick enough and realized she was going down a dangerous path, so she gave up.
Dude, your getting dragged in by more of her lies. She clearly dated the guy while she was married to you. She chose to sleep with him, living the same house as him, to go on vacations with him, and to leave you for him.
Now she's trying to make you feel done kind of guilt for calling her out on her cheating by making up an outlandish story to justify why she chose to have an out and out affair?
Her logic seems to be:
I was assaulted -> I didn't tell anyone -> so I chose to have an affair -> she went to Disneyland on a family trip with OM and her don -> moved OM into live with her -> you should forgive her having an affair.
That's pretty messed up. Assault or not, she still chose to have a blatant affair while you were deployed.
Iyou shoud really stop wasting any mre time on this one you've suffered enough from her. Posted via Mobile Device
You guys are right. D will be done in less than 30 days. I've been done with her since the day I told her I wanted a D last year. Now I guess I need a way to deal with the anger Posted via Mobile Device
Nope no one deserves to be assaulted. Not that I believe that she was. I agree with the whole she made that up to try to throw me off. Sad thing is, I'm pretty sure she sold her family on it. But in the end I guess it doesn't matter. It's a shame, her family are wonderful people and don't deserve that. But she would lie to them rather than have to admit what really happened. I would be willing to admit that she made that story up more for thier benefit than for me. She had to tell them something when she moved back in with them. Guess I should have exposed. Too late now I guess. But like I said it doesn't matter now, with luck the D will be done before the end of August. Posted via Mobile Device
Nope no one deserves to be assaulted. Not that I believe that she was. I agree with the whole she made that up to try to throw me off. Sad thing is, I'm pretty sure she sold her family on it. But in the end I guess it doesn't matter. It's a shame, her family are wonderful people and don't deserve that. But she would lie to them rather than have to admit what really happened. I would be willing to admit that she made that story up more for thier benefit than for me. She had to tell them something when she moved back in with them. Guess I should have exposed. Too late now I guess. But like I said it doesn't matter now, with luck the D will be done before the end of August. Posted via Mobile Device
Well, if that's so, her use of the concept of rape to try to get herself out of a jam is very revealing of a low moral character.
Dude, your getting dragged in by more of her lies. She clearly dated the guy while she was married to you. She chose to sleep with him, living the same house as him, to go on vacations with him, and to leave you for him.
Now she's trying to make you feel done kind of guilt for calling her out on her cheating by making up an outlandish story to justify why she chose to have an out and out affair?
Her logic seems to be:
I was assaulted -> I didn't tell anyone -> so I chose to have an affair -> she went to Disneyland on a family trip with OM and her don -> moved OM into live with her -> you should forgive her having an affair.
That's pretty messed up. Assault or not, she still chose to have a blatant affair while you were deployed.
Iyou shoud really stop wasting any mre time on this one you've suffered enough from her. Posted via Mobile Device
This reminds me of a story once told on here about a man whos W cheated on him with his father. His father was a cheater, cheated on his mom and supposedly everyone knew about it and his father even bragged about it. His father, while on his deathbed told his son that he had her many, many many times, over something like 2 years? then he died several days later. He confronted his W, and she said she was "assaulted/raped" and was too scared to tell anyone, yet the H said there was no abnormal actions while she was around her father when he was alive. All those times, for that long, she tells the MC that? WOW, i'm a big time skeptic, some people will say ANYTHING to justify, or minimize, or detract from the truth. I'm not saying your wife is not saying the truth, I'm saying if this was my case, I'd be hit hard but still have my doubts.
I think that there is a good reason to assume she was raped in terms of how you talk with her about it specifically. Which is that the worst thing you can do to a true victim of rape/abuse is to deny it, so the default is to presume it happened.
This is my "basic humanity" stance on it.
But, it does not matter one bit in terms of her affair. There is no question that she had an affair over a long period of time. If she was raped at some point, recently or in the deep past, it does not excuse the affair.
My approach would be to ignore the rape claim unless she says something. In that case I would simply offer my sorrow for what happened and to offer my support (emotional) for her recovery. That's it.
Really it doesn't matter what story she spins to her family. As long as it doesn't affect you, your income, your professional reputation, or your future romantic prospects.
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