07-28-2012, 08:55 PM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Re: Husband cheated and I'm pregnant....
Originally Posted by olivebaby
This whole situation is a complete sh*t show. That is what I keep thinking, he just wanted to get away from his responsibilities and go be single, making big $$ in another state for a while, have some fun... but whenever I suggest this, and trust me I'm done being crazy about it, it's as level a conversation as a cheated on wife can have, he denies and it and just swings back around to getting away with it. *sighs* round and round, I'm sick of typing it now too. I should just leave him, but for some reason I feel like I owe it to my baby to at least give it a try before walking away. Either way I feel like a complete moron.
You are NOT a moron! Don't think that! Honestly, I think your assessment isn't so far off. He thought he would get away with it, he says. WHY did he think he could get away with it? Because he was.... working in another state, away from his family, away from his responsibilities, playing single, making more $$$. Get it? He thought he could get away with it because he WAS getting away with it... by playing that part!
I'm not gonna tell you to leave him. If you truly want to work it out, you have a LONG road ahead of you. Is he keeping everything open/transparent to you now? Are you able to look at his phone, his email, everything, at any given time, without him trying to stall you? If not, yet... he HAS to do this for you. Plus, he has to agree to counseling if that is what YOU choose to do. You are monitoring, I noticed from your first post. But, was anything told to this woman to never contact him again?
Honestly, if he is not willing to get to the bottom of the REAL reason for his choice, then I would leave. But, that's me. I wish you the best, whatever you choose to do, tho.