webcam is it cheating or not?

confusedbrun1 · 07-31-2012, 08:25 AM

my husband of 10 years has been caught 3 times now viewing and exposing himself to other women via webcam. I was wondering how many of you consider this cheating? And would YOU leave him over this? We do have other issues (posted in the marriage and addiction). Also, when we lay down and go to sleep at night it appears he gets up, looks at porn on his cellphone and masturbates EVERY night. Please read my other post for my details beware though its tmi. I have looked at his phone history (most of the time he deletes it) and i have seen several links to free webcams and ****** maddison. I know this could be pop ups but with his webcam history I am not taking any chances. I am afraid he might be exposing himself again so I wanted to know if there was a free keylogger for an htc thunderbolt phone? I only need the trial to last for a few days and be easy to install since i have limited time around his phone. Believe me if I ask him he WILL deny it. I need to know for sure before I confront him and figure out what i want to do.

if you want a little more history on us please feel free to ask.

wiigirl · 07-31-2012, 08:36 AM

Cheating in my opinion.

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lalsr1988 · 07-31-2012, 08:37 AM

How would he react if he caught you naked on webcam for other guys? It would be a deal breaker for me
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Mavash. · 07-31-2012, 08:41 AM

Its cheating.

survivorwife · 07-31-2012, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Mavash.

Its cheating.

It's something he physically does with OW in private, so yes, it's cheating.

Shaggy · 07-31-2012, 08:55 AM

Yes it's cheating. Looking at porn is not cheating, but live cams, especially two way....yes cheating.
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Almostrecovered · 07-31-2012, 08:56 AM

well if he was hiding it from you and knows you are not "okay" with it then it is infidelity imo

Caribbean Man · 07-31-2012, 09:04 AM

So he's on the bed,right next to you,looking @ porn on his phone and masturbating while you are sleeping?
You need to give him a " wake up " call.
He needs serious counselling.

badbane · 07-31-2012, 09:21 AM

IMO webcam cybersex is the same as a PA. To me it is just having sex but not being able to logistically pull it off. If he were to ever find a easy way to meet f2f. I am pretty sure it would be an automatic PA.

Hope1964 · 07-31-2012, 09:39 AM

Yes it is cheating and you need to kick HIM out, not leave yourself. Please read my story - my husband had cyberaffairs and that's exactly what I did.

confusedbrun1 · 07-31-2012, 10:05 AM

i just wanted to give dh and fair judgement to so it wasn't one sided.

Mavash. · 07-31-2012, 10:09 AM

You just made it worse. Now he's a cheater AND abusive.

thunderstruck · 07-31-2012, 10:13 AM

Too many dealbreakers in your posts. I would give him a choice to start counseling ASAP or you're going to start the D process.

Hope1964 · 07-31-2012, 10:14 AM

Seriously, this guy is a piece of trash. Get out.

Jellybeans · 07-31-2012, 10:18 AM

This is cheating. And not only that, he keeps doing it after you called him out on it. And the ******* site--is a site specifically tailored for cheating.