Fantastic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MsStacy · 04-29-2009, 11:43 AM

I can't remember.....are you or your husband on this softball team and now the other husband is a player too?

sunflower · 04-29-2009, 02:09 PM

He is and he said that he would not play but HE LOVES THE GAME so I said NO you are playing and he supports me being there or not. He knows and respects the idea of that. I did have a break down at lunch today lol with HIM ughhh and well its not to do with the kiss I think its that I am looking for that thing that I know he loved me I know she is wrong and he was about me NOT her. I dunno.........

MsStacy · 04-29-2009, 03:05 PM

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I think its that I am looking for that thing that I know he loved me

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he said that he would not play but HE LOVES THE GAME so I said NO you are playing and he supports me being there or not

He is showing you in so many ways how much he loves you. You just illustrated a biggie.

MyKidsMom · 04-29-2009, 04:12 PM

Oh honey I cant find your other posts, but I get the point. Stay strong this is not just for you but your family.

revitalizedhusband · 04-30-2009, 07:24 AM

He volunteered to quit playing a game he loves, just to make you feel better...if that doesn't say "I love you and want you happy" then nothing does.

sunflower · 04-30-2009, 10:01 AM

Ya your right I need to stop playing with his heart. I am so up and down seriously I dont know what I expect from him its crazy. I just take in what people say you know when they are like oh he didnt love you or he wouldnt have done that?

revitalizedhusband · 04-30-2009, 10:58 AM

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Ya your right I need to stop playing with his heart. I am so up and down seriously I dont know what I expect from him its crazy. I just take in what people say you know when they are like oh he didnt love you or he wouldnt have done that?

Do "those" people know what you did (strip poker) or are the only going off of him kissing the OW?

Anybody who knows the "whole story" like we do on these forums, can see that he loves you and did the kissing out of revenge, solely out of revenge.

It was wrong, but it wasn't because he wanted her and didn't want you.

Ignore those people who say that he doesn't love you, because I'm sure they don't know the whole story.

sunflower · 04-30-2009, 11:13 AM

Ya some people do but they also look at what I did as minor compaired to what he did.

revitalizedhusband · 04-30-2009, 12:03 PM

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Ya some people do but they also look at what I did as minor compaired to what he did.

Are the ones that think your's was minor women? I have a hard time believing most men would be ok with another man seeing their wife naked.

sunflower · 04-30-2009, 12:06 PM

[QUOTE=mommy22;53585]Sunflower, I think you tend to become a prisoner of your own emotions.

Couldnt have said that any better YOU ARE SOOOOO RIGHT. I am. I do good then I let something little bring me down and I am caught up in my own self pitty! yesterday when I was crying in the parking lot and doing the poor Kim thing my H stoped me and said YOU BROKE MY HEART TO. it was a shock

revitalizedhusband · 04-30-2009, 01:31 PM

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yesterday when I was crying in the parking lot and doing the poor Kim thing my H stoped me and said YOU BROKE MY HEART TO. it was a shock

Exactly! Now imagine if he put you through HALF of what you've put him through the last few months...

humpty dumpty · 04-30-2009, 01:32 PM

totally agree i do find myself thinking keep quiet dont say anything and before ive thought it .. ive said it lol !! hey im working on it xx

sunflower · 04-30-2009, 02:31 PM

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Well, the dangerous thing about allowing your emotions to rule you is you can't make well thought out decisions and life choices. Emotions are too vulnerable to allow them to be your compass. So, each time you get that way, you just have to step back and let it pass before you do or say anything. It's usually fleeting and things are better in no time!

Ya thats what is sooooo hard is when I get lost I would talk to HER and now I have knobody I can confide in because I cant talk to him I dont want to drive him INSAIN!

sunflower · 04-30-2009, 02:32 PM

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Exactly! Now imagine if he put you through HALF of what you've put him through the last few months...

Well he was pretty bad I think with the poker thing I wouldnt say to my extent of it BUT he was really bad. SO ya I should cut some slack and relax a bit somedays my emotions get the best of me!

sunflower · 04-30-2009, 02:37 PM

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I think the bottom line here is you're worried he'll decide to leave. He has no desire to do that. However, if you continue to fixate on this, you may end up pushing him out of your life. He'll eventually be exasperated. Stay focused. We're here to help.

I am SOOOO scared that he is going to leave me you dont even know OR that he will break my heart again. I cant take it I LOVE HIM TO MUCH. And just him hiding all that from me scares me to death that he could do that and Just not look me in the face without folding and telling you know, Its crushing. makes me sad really sad.