08-04-2012, 05:26 AM
Join Date: Oct 2011
| | Re: Infidelity or not? What do you think?
Lying to avoid conflict is a major red flag, and could be a sign of serious mental health issues. This needs to be addressed with a counselor ASAP. Once you've ensured that she is making an effort in her own individual counseling, and perhaps seeing a psychiatrist to see if meds may be an option (abilify, seroqel, or various other types of ant-psychotics can sometimes help a person become more grounded in reality), you can begin attending couples counseling together to address issues of boundaries and trust. The comment that sticks out the most is lying about the number of cavities your child had/has. That is obviously a big violation of boundaries as the health of your children is a joint responsibility, and the sharing of medical information, regardless of how tough it may be, is an absolute must. What if it was something serious, and she didnt want to tell you, and you ran out of time and options in seeking alternative diagnosis or treatment? Best of luck to you. Keep us posted.