Re: My wife admitted to me that she cheated
OK. Right now I know it looks really bad. I agree that there is a good chance there is more going on than she has told me. I am terrified that something may still be going on right now.
But, with all that said, I wouldn't feel right exposing everything to her family, my family, our friends. If she puts in an effort over the next day or two, then I'd like to let that effort continue to grow. If she does not, then maybe I'd reconsider that.
If I tell her family, my family and our friends, I'll have done irreparable damage to our relationship, and likely make her feel like her life has been ruined. I just don't know that I can be that cruel a person.
There are moments where I'd like to hurt her like that, but I don't think I could really be that vengeful to her.
I pray that she was completely honest last night, that it was all a long time ago and that it has all been over for a long time. I see the signs that that is not the case, but right now, I want to keep my hopes up.
I also understand all of you who have said to man up. I get it. The sobbing is not very manly. If tonight goes poorly, I will likely ask her to move out. When I've brought it up before, she always says she wants to get our finances in order first, but if I have to ask her to leave, I won't be waiting for that. If she won't go at that point, then, yes, I will likely let her family know why I've asked her to leave.