08-07-2012, 12:17 AM
Join Date: Jul 2012
| | Re: Wife of 35 Years Has a Wild Fling
By Hollowman |
Recently my wife of 35 years told me she was working a grave shift but instead she spent the night in a van with a younger man.
She has told me this was not planned and that she just went there to comfort him as a friend only but it got out of hand and she fell to temptation. (A customer she met, not a co-worker).
I met him two days later because he stopped at her work to say goodbye on his way out of state and I happened to be there at that time. I 55 years old and my wife is 51.
My wife is going though the change of life and I've noticed she has not been seemed to care much about me lately. She has told me she has felt UN-appreciated by me lately also.
I am completely devastated and trying to decide if our life together is over or if we can move forward. I get sick to my stomach right now when thinking about getting intimate.
I could really use some wise advice right now.
The IF questions
If she has been a faithful wife for 35 years
If she really wants to reconcile
If she is willing to do the ACTIONS necessary to rebuild
If she is willing to admit that her accusation of you being UN-appreciated is not a good enough excuse for her betrayal-adultery (even if it is true that you have been UN-appreciative?)
If she is willing to follow the advice of a good marriage counselor even if it is hard for her.
If she will realize that her chances of any man doing more for her than you is slim to none. What good man is going to be madly in love with a 51 year old woman that is a cheater?
If those IF questions are in the affirmative then you have a good chance of rebuilding the marriage. If there is something that the marriage counselor tells you to do as the husband then you do it!
If she is reluctant to take the actions necessary to rebuild your relationship then KEEP YOUR DIGNITY, DO NOT GROVEL; get a lawyer, get her out, then start building yourself up body, mind, and spirit so that you will recover and have a good life. Millions have done that and so can you.