08-10-2012, 03:34 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: One year out from husband's EA. How did others find things then?
At 1 years things were great, My fWW stopped all the texting (new phone), no more GNO's and she reconnected with the kids and me.
The hystirical bonding died down a little, but we still spend all our time together. MC was good but IC for both of us seemed effective in the R. Alot of date night back then, that to has died down a pit(money issues).
It was weird how it seemed she just had a switch that was turned, so that even made some what suspicous, so I continue to snoop....even infront of her (she didn't mind).
Its been 2-1/2 years now and the sex is good the connection is good and she has not gone back to any of those old behaviors. The snooping has died down and all is good.
It was just the other day we were hanging out at the pool for a few hours and she just went on about some of the longer affairs and her toxic friend. We did talk about some of the ONS but it seemed very painful for fWW...so she was some what brief with those kind of conversation.
Her trips to the sex clubs are painful for me, along with the "good friend" of mine.....so its been years since that was talked about.
Other then the random "I'm sorry" and "thanks for keeping me" she has a alot of effection for me and I her. Sex is a little different, I am no longer "using" her in such away that was simular to her past behavior...it still rough (thats just me) but we spend the time to kiss and look at each other.
At the end of the day we are just spending alot of time together, our friends are around, but no as much as they were before. Its us and the kids for the most part.