So, when I was doing laundry at my grandparents place (we don't have a machine at home) I took a load of my husbands laundry out of the dryer and there was a condom in a wrapper in the dryer. We have not used condoms in years. We are 24 and 26. My Uncle (in his mid 40's) lived with my grandparents up until about a month ago.
I confronted my husband, he (of course) said he had no idea how it got there. He told me it could be my uncles. My grandma had a load of laundry in the dryer before I put one of mine in, I took that out, transferred some of mine into the dryer, took that out, and on my second load of laundry is when I found the condom.
He said he is being honest, and that he has no idea how it got there, typical answers I suppose.
Whats up with that?! My husband is a trustworthy guy, except for one minor online dirty chat I found on his computer he has been totally faithful to me (as far as I know.)
He is out of town tonight, and I am going out of town for the weekend. We won't see each other until Sunday.
Does it seem like he is being honest? is there a possibility it is my uncles?? Just wondering what other people think as I cannot very well ask anyone I know in real life.
Don't say anything more to him for a while and start looking to see whatelse you found.
A man who is having dirty chats on the internet is not innocent. You might want to consider installing a keylogger on the computer he was using for the dirty chat.
Act like it never happened and start looking around....cell records, internet usage etc....
The uncle has been gone a month. Im sure you have used the dryer since then. If something makes sense ...it usually does. It could only be your husbands. Combined with the dirty chat he either has or is planning on doing something. Sorry sweetie
Things often happen in a logical sequence.
Like,
Monday,Tuesday,Wednesday etc.
Even when occurrences seem random, there is always a pattern.
First the dirty chats ,then the condom wrapper.
24 & 26 is basically newly weds.
Why is he having these " dirty chats " online?
And I doubt that was the only " dirty chat" he had.
Check the computer history. If its cleared ,then why is he clearing it?
Since you didn't pay much attention to the first red fllag ,
You should definitely pay close attention to this one.
After the dirty chat, which was over a year and a half ago, I left, we went to counseling and I believe it would never happen again. We have resolved that issue, and I have 100% access to his email, he does not have facebook, and he has a cell phone for work, and I have total access to that as well.
IT is however possible that my grandma was doing my uncles laundry as he has clothing still at their house and she was just cleaning out/cleaning up his bedroom. My uncle is in a new relationship, if that matters.
After the dirty chat, which was over a year and a half ago, I left, we went to counseling and I believe it would never happen again. We have resolved that issue, and I have 100% access to his email, he does not have facebook, and he has a cell phone for work, and I have total access to that as well.
IT is however possible that my grandma was doing my uncles laundry as he has clothing still at their house and she was just cleaning out/cleaning up his bedroom. My uncle is in a new relationship, if that matters.
Ok then,
I understand your concern because of the previous " issue" [ dirty chat], but this present issue
[ condom wrapper] seems kind of iffy.
There are some plausible variables, and you bth seem to have handled the first issue properly
Maybe you should let it go, but keep your instincts sharp.
Just my opinion.
Trust but verify. You have a past problem so just keep your guard up a bit. How are things at home. does he hang on to his phone. how is your sex life. Is he the guy that wants to get things started?
Why are you two spending time apart. That is a red flag to me
get a keylogger.keep quiet.act normal.keep those eyes open and don't brush off fishy stuff as nothing.separate they might be nothing but add it all together and you've got something.
How about asking your relatives directly about this? They are your relatives and would not lie to you would they? Are you too embarrassed to ask? If they know about the other situation they will understand your suspicions.
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condom in laundry... 
