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Old 08-13-2012, 12:23 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm wondering what are some of the words or phrases a cheater would say that would raise a red flag?

I know the most common one on TAM is : I love you but I'm not in love with you. I got the: "I love you but i'm not attracted to you anymore." line.
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"He's/She's just a friend" is the other big one. You know when they say that one that they're lying and that it's an affair.
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Six months after the divorce, when the WS discovers that they spouse they cheated on has just started to date:

"I cannot believe you moved on so quickly."
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"I can't believe you check my cell phone. You are controlling. Why don't you trust me?"
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How about: "There's nothing sexual going on".
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I need to find myself.

I need some space.

Stop being jealous, insecure and controlling.

I would never cheat on you.

These text messages are just joking around and are not serious.

This relationship is completely platonic.

I have a right to my privacy.

Marriage is about trust.

I think we need some time apart to think. Lets separate for a while.

I need to go on this trip without you to clear my head.

I was just helping him with his marriage problems.

I have always felt more comfortable with male friends.

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It's Not you, it's me.
I never meant to hurt you.
This isn't about you and me.
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Wow! I didn't realize that there are so many!
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Wow! I didn't realize that there are so many!
Probably as many as there are affairs.

How about: "I am going to have an affair, but please, I want you to know I still love you"?

Oh. That's not common, is it? But it is what I got.

This is another classic: "I am really sorry, but there's something I have to tell you."

and

"Please don't hate me!"
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I got...

she's just a friend

can't I have ANY privacy?

I didn't lie, I just didn't tell you because it didn't mean anything
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You are feeling insecured.

I think your mind is overworking. Are you paranoid?

He/She is just a friend/guide/teacher/xxx. Nothing, you imagine, is going on.

We discuss common things only. He/She has some personal issues. I am just offering him some solace.
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You have nothing to worry about

You have absolutely nothing to worry about

I swear you have nothing to worry about

Why are you so worried ? Its not what you think
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I wasn't telling you truth to protect your feelings!
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I wasn't telling you truth to protect your feelings!
Bloody hell!! I hate being a part of club BS.
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Old 08-13-2012, 05:43 AM   #15 (permalink)
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How about......
He's like family to me
We at work are one big happy family
Perhaps we should starting seeing other people
What about me? It is my time to live.
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