Cant figure it out and cant contact her anymore cause she pressed charges on me for trying to contact her, gf of 3 years we were arguing alot, was rude to her and left one night, said I wasnt going to kiss her and she was acting weird, left, she never text goodnight or I love you for the next 4 days, called me up and broke up with me saying "Im done", no real reason, wouldnt talk about it, said "I love you and care about you" I said "no you dont otherwise you wouldnt be doing thing" she said "believe what you want to believe", I got pissed drove down to her place and talked to her about it more, she said "Im done, leave!" "I dont have even have any feelings for you anymore" "I love you but not romantically", I asked her for her phone and she wouldn't give it to me, I asked knowingly at that point "theres another guy?" and she dropped her head in shame and shook her head yes and I yelled "You cheated on me!?" She threw her hands out palms out and said "No! No, it was nothing like that, we only talked on the phone" and "I dont know, I think I just have a crush on him" She still wouldn't budge and I kept talking to her about all sorts of stuff, I asked her if I could sit down and she said "yes but dont touch me" which confused me and so I tried to touch her and she kinda freak out, TONS of tension there, then while talking she started to confess that she almost went on a date with a guy from work 1 year in to the relationship and that during a month she went on a date with a guy while we were broken up(i broke up with her for a month cause things werent working out) but she said he tried to kiss her but she didnt. I then later touched her on the leg jokingly and she said sadly "please dont", also a 2 weeks before this she we were arguing and she said that she "had a dream that she cheated on me to get out of the relationship"(we had been arguing alot) then said "I never would though..." so theres alot of red flags there, but when i asked her if she cheated on me she said no they only talked on the phone, I know she was being honest there, but she said "IT" was nothing like that. Is there still a chance that she cheated but with some different guy?? Are the two stories about the other dates a form of trickle truth? I cant just ask her cause she put charges on me for trying to contact her, and was a ***** about everything, she kept saying "Leave!" "Im done" "get out!", so far she is not with that other guy(he was married and told her that his wife cheated on him). It is just bothering me cause I would rather just know the truth of whether she cheated or not cause a month before she broke up with me but was like "I dont want to ever see you with another girl" and after we got back together after that she said she was going to call me anyways and work things out cause she was having all these dreams etc. so completely different from one month ago, seems to fast for such a drastic change in break up attitude. What do you guys think?
Also forgot to add that she said that I "pushed her over the edge" that night, when I wouldnt kiss her, she thought that I had pushed her away from me or something. I explained that wasnt the case and she said it doesnt matter anymore and i asked why and she said "I promised God id never have anything to do with you again, and im not about to break that promise", I asked why she would do something like that and she said "Cause! Im done! Get out! Leave!"
She also said she hadn't been able to eat for a week, and when I went down there it was obvious that she hadn't eaten anything Posted via Mobile Device
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She also said she hadn't been able to eat for a week, and when I went down there it was obvious that she hadn't eaten anything Posted via Mobile Device
Sounds like she's fallen in love. Not with you. With someone else [probably with one of the guys she went out with].
__________________ Shaggy: Men of integrity don't have affairs. They don't have affairs not because there aren't other wonderful women out there besides their wives, they don't have affairs because as men of integrity they choose not to.
Last edited by lovelygirl; 08-13-2012 at 08:27 AM.
Get out. Just leave. Leave her alone. Dont turn into a stalker. This could lead to something you may regret later. Put on your big boy drawers, man up and walk away from this little twit. Shes not ready to ne in a serious relationship. She does not want to be in a relationship with you.
This sounds harsh, but someday you look back and say geez what a trip that chick was, glad i got away from her
Will it hurt? Yes! But you have to do it anyway. Time will heal you. In a few months you will be fine. Just keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends etc. And do not call her, see her or take her calls.
It is possible she cheated on you even if she didn't have sex with him you know. An emotional affair is what could be driving her away from you, if she became attached to this other man.
She's broken up with you, and told you to move on.
How badly and out of control did you act with her? I'm asking because RO's need a lot more than you kept calling her to get.
What are ROS?
She did day she felt like she cheated on me in her heart
It couldn't have anything to do with the guys she went on a date with that she feel in love with and she said she had only been talking to that guy for a week on the phone.
We were also engaged and she would always say stuff like "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" and"if we ever broke up id never Faye again cause I've set my heart on you" Posted via Mobile Device
and she said she had only been talking to that guy for a week on the phone.
And what makes you think she hasn't kissed him yet?
Because she says so?
If she hasn't been romantically involved with you for a while now, I bet she couldn't care less about staying faithful to you.
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We were also engaged and she would always say stuff like "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" and"if we ever broke up id never Faye again cause I've set my heart on you" Posted via Mobile Device
__________________ Shaggy: Men of integrity don't have affairs. They don't have affairs not because there aren't other wonderful women out there besides their wives, they don't have affairs because as men of integrity they choose not to.
She also said she hadn't been able to eat for a week, and when I went down there it was obvious that she hadn't eaten anything Posted via Mobile Device
She did day she felt like she cheated on me in her heart
It couldn't have anything to do with the guys she went on a date with that she feel in love with and she said she had only been talking to that guy for a week on the phone.
We were also engaged and she would always say stuff like "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" and"if we ever broke up id never Faye again cause I've set my heart on you" Posted via Mobile Device
RO = restraining order. You said she had you charged and you had to keep away.
There is too much drama with this woman. Healthy and happy relationships do not have this drama - they just don't. Take this opportunity to move on and upgrade your relationship style with a new and more mature person.
There is too much drama with this woman. Healthy and happy relationships do not have this drama - they just don't. Take this opportunity to move on and upgrade your relationship style with a new and more mature person.
Thanks
Its not actually an RO, its a stalking charge for two voicemails, they were non threatening. Posted via Mobile Device
Been looking over the common phrases of a cheating spouse and she even said "You were never even there for me" and "We never even had that much fun together", looks like she most likely cheated.
Would somebody say these things in even an EA? Or are they most likely in a PA?
List of some things she said that are common phrases
"I dont even have any feelings for you anymore"
"I love you but not romantically"
"You were never even there for me"
"We never even had that much fun together"
"I think I just have a crush on him"
"you just pushed me over the edge"
The pushed me over the edge one makes me think that she had a PA. What do you guys think? It wouldnt have been with the married guy, Im sure of that.
Yes, those same phrases are used whether EA or PA. I used some of them, myself, in my EAs. The most prevalent in mine was "he's just a friend, don't worry." But he was more than that. Same with my husband's EA. Posted via Mobile Device
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Is this trickle truth? Did she cheat? 
