I appreciate your concern. My wife is a very selfish person, which actually is helping to lessen my feelings for her. What she has done is unspeakable. Right up to D day she was saying things like "I love our family", "it's you and me forever" and of course "I love you so much". All lies. So yes I will do everything to protect my daughter. In the state I live in, there is no contact with a non-related member of the opposite sex for the 70 days between filing and court date. She thinks I should let her break that rule. She's agreed to not fight for the house or custody, so as of now I'm in the drivers' seat.
In the state I live in, there is no contact with a non-related member of the opposite sex for the 70 day between filing and court date. She thinks I should let her break that rule. She's agreed to not fight for the house or custody, so as of now I'm in the drivers' seat.
Waive the 70 days, get your house and full custody and she can have the OM if she wants. Just getting custody of your daughter is worth that, have the lawyers draft it, ink it and run like crazy.
I also want to acknowledge your feelings that you do still love your wife & hope to reconcile. Many people do reconcile after affairs end; you can read about that on TAM. Some even reconcile after the divorce is final (you may change your mind in the future anyway) so R is always a possibility but you are dealing with a walk-away-mother here not just a wife.
I appreciate your concern. My wife is a very selfish person, which actually is helping to lessen my feelings for her. What she has done is unspeakable. Right up to D day she was saying things like "I love our family", "it's you and me forever" and of course "I love you so much". All lies. So yes I will do everything to protect my daughter. In the state I live in, there is no contact with a non-related member of the opposite sex for the 70 days between filing and court date. She thinks I should let her break that rule. She's agreed to not fight for the house or custody, so as of now I'm in the drivers' seat.
Oh good - so happy to hear you will get custody w/o a fight.
Do check out the AP's criminal background...you never know. However, barring any record he might have, even with primary physical and legal custody, your wife would still have total control over who your daughter is allowed around during her visitation time. I would suggest requesting a no paramour sleepover clause be added to the custody order that states neither of you may allow an unmarried, non-relative member of the opposite sex to stay overnight when your daughter is with you.
That's your best bet, probably. You can try to get your wife barred from allowing OM around your daughter at all (and I would try unless my attorney thought it a bad idea. The poor girl shouldn't have to watch Mom play house with the guy who helped destroy her family and stability). But this often doesn't work, so add the permanent no paramour clause, as well. At least maybe it'll last past 70 days.
Heck, if you think she'll sign anything you put in front of her without a fight, slip in whatever you like.
I appreciate your concern. My wife is a very selfish person, which actually is helping to lessen my feelings for her. What she has done is unspeakable. Right up to D day she was saying things like "I love our family", "it's you and me forever" and of course "I love you so much". All lies. So yes I will do everything to protect my daughter. In the state I live in, there is no contact with a non-related member of the opposite sex for the 70 days between filing and court date. She thinks I should let her break that rule. She's agreed to not fight for the house or custody, so as of now I'm in the drivers' seat.
Then take advantage of this now! File immediately. You will not get another chance.
Then take advantage of this now! File immediately. You will not get another chance.
If you snooze, you lose.
You have no idea how much of an advantage you have right now. Move as fast as you can before her fog starts lifting. Its better to hold all of the cards when her world starts to crumble.
all's well and dandy till someone poops with the door open
Or belches, or leaves the toilet seat up or forgets to pay the rent/mortgage, etc. Then Prince Charming isn't so charming anymore because they have both left Affair Land and entered Real Relationship Land.
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