Suspicious of Husband
I guess I need to start from the beginning. I don't want to be too wordy...this is my mine and my husband's second marriage. We've been married almost 8 years and together 12 years. I had an affair prior to our marriage and 1 a year after we were married. I was entirely at fault, and for almost 5 years have texted/called him when I was going somewhere (even the store), just so he would know where I was. I knew I owed him that. 1 1/2 years ago I met him at a local bar after I got off work, saw a girl following him around, and I got a 'feeling'...told the girl to leave him alone. He said he didn't notice her...flash forward 2 weeks later, and I stopped to see him again, after work while he was running karaoke. His phone went off with a text (we always leave our phones out), I picked it up and saw a text from a girl (turns out it was from the one I told to leave him alone). I asked him about it, and I knew the second he snapped, "What the heck are you doing with my phone?"...he tried to pass it off as someone he worked with, but finally came clean. Of course I blocker her number after I called her and told her what I thought of her. Three weeks after that I found out he, in retribution to my 2nd affair, slept with a girl I knew...this happened right after I came clean, but it took 5 years for me to discover it. While he said it was years ago, it was like it just happened, since I discovered it then. Of course I had words with her. I then watched his text/calling on our cell phone company website. I had gotten over that, then something happened last week. I have to add, our sex life is nil. When he went for his physical in May, he had me pick up a script at the pharmacy. Turns out it was Viagra....he said he felt he needed that (I told him he needed his testosterone leves checked, but he didn't do that). Last week, before I got off work (I work the midnight shift), I text him at 6:40am to see if he needed anything from Walmart as I was stopping to pick up some things. He said he didn't. I was coming home at 8:55am, and was stopped by one of his coworker's gf coming from our home. She said no one could find him...he never showed at the meeting that was at town 20 miles away and was for 7:30am. I checked the house to find his motorcycle gone, so I was going to go the way he would've gone. His coworker got a hold of me and said a manager from another store had come up that way looking for him but didn't see him. So I told him I was going another way he might have gone, but the other manager was going back that way. Just a few minutes later I got a text from the coworker that my husband did show at the meeting but it was over. I left him a vm, and then a text asking where he was. He called me and said he felt the phone vibrate while he was riding (really?) and pulled over to call me. Anyway, he said he got pulled over (he went the way he usually did), for going 70mph in a 50mph and got a verbal warning because he fell back asleep and was running late. My 'gut' didn't fall for that. Personally, I would've called the office to say I was going to be late. Anyway, I started looking at his calls/texts online and noticed a recurring #. I looked it up and it was the bartender where he plays karaoke. He ended up saying they spoke/text because a friend of hers was having problems with a bf, and he was talking to a ex-cop friend of ours for advice. I was away for the weekend and saw he text her 3 more times and when I got home, I blocked her #. I told him he should've respected my wishes...she could've spoken to our cop friend herself. Back to the Viagra. On Monday, I was at the kitchen sink and for whatever reason I picked up the bottle and opened it. There was Excedrin Back & Body pills in it and not the 6 tablets of Viagra. I did speak to him when he got home, and he said he took 2 pills three times when I was off, but we would go out for drinks and they didn't take effect so he was embarassed. The next day we were both off, and something bugged me, so I looked at the bottle (I had thrown it away, but dug it out),and the date was July 15. I was in Alabama the weekend of July 15. I called the pharmacy and they said, yes, it was filled the 2nd time then. Bank records didn't show anything, so he paid cash. Now we aren't rolling in the $, so $127 for 6 pills is a lot for us, and here he got a 2nd bottle! I sat down and said, that I'm sorry the pills he took 3 times (2 ea time) didn't work...he said, 'yes, I tried them three times'...that is when I got up and got the bottle and showed him the July 15 date and what the heck was going on. He then said he actually tried them 6 times (2 ea time), but we would go out and be with our friends and have drinks and they wouldn't work. I asked him why he wouldn't say, 'Hey, I want to try these, let's just stay home and watch a movie, or let's do dinner and I'd like to try them'. Am I being played a fool? I think I am. Now he's wanting marriage therapy, but I really think he was screwing around. Any advice?