Re: Just caught him cheating, don't know what to do from here
My husband had an affair with a co-worker for three years! Everyone on the job knew it was going on & no one said a word. Since I no longer worked there and had grown distant with the others, there was no way to alert me, anyhow... Now the "kiddy" has meowed. She still works there and knows that I am aware. He is scared to death to loose his job & family over a sidepiece & is more of a husband now, than in the beginning. He no longer has anyone willing to cover for his deeds & they all know I am ready to have them all called out to upper management. Ah... they work for a Christian Org.! Some Christians, huh?! My question to you is this...what do you want for YOURSELF? Do you want him or your freedom? We were having MAJOR problems before the affair, the affair just added to what was going on at the time (I believe, to get even for being too busy to pay attention to his every need). What else is happening under your roof that is not being addressed or is he just a player & a cheat? I was wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, banker, lawyer, coach, home repair maintanience woman, car dealer, mailperson, church deaconess, dog groomer...(etc)., and all he did was eat, sleep, watch sports & go to work - and cheat! NOW we have become equal partners and I ain't giving any slack! I know where he is at all times etc. Listen, some PEOPLE need structure. Without guidance, they become side tracked and any interested party may want to play 'pick up'. Are you ready to just hand your H to another W or are you willing to fight for you family? IS HE WORTH YOUR TIME OR NOT - point blank!
Last edited by Private Eye Wife; 05-08-2009 at 03:08 PM.