[QUOTE=hotdogs;1004858]Is that how you guys really feel? That a married woman has no business being out past 1am? We need curfews now?
I'm just curious because my husband has been really pissed when I roll in at 4am. I'm not sure if I should be annoyed and that he is controlling or if I am just inconsiderate. I don't want to be inconsiderate. I just like having a night off twice a month or so and I get carried away...next thing you know we're all at the strip club putting singles in g-strings... (female strippers btw)
It's honestly just girls being girls. We get wild, we get hit on and giggle when it happens but that's all. I've never been out with the girls and one has decided "oh yes, I'm going home with this skeeze I just met because he bought me wine all night!" I don't think it's as common as y'all think. BUT none of us have cheated or anything like that so I dunno.[/QUOTE
Its not a curfew, its respecting your spouses wishes and emotions.
Its boundaries and respecting your spouse. If your husband is okay with your deeply late night excursions, that'd be fine(although he isn't)
Boundaries also help keep spouses out situations their SO isn't comfortable with. An example, how would you like it if your husband says hes going out with the guys to a real skeezy strip club with a reputation of the girls giving 'extra' service, and hes says he'll get home when he gets there?
He may not feel hes in danger of cheating, but you most likely wouldn't feel comfortable with him being surrounded by women of loose morals and alcohol.(Like how he doesn't feel comfortable his wife coming home past 4am in the morning)
Many men and women are uncomfortable with late night excursions.
Ocurrences like this are very common: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/private...band-left.html
^ Thats a nightmare no should ever have to go through
So its understandable a spouse could be uncomfortable with it.
Boundaries go for both spouses. My GF doesn't really like me out of the home past midnight. Before we got together I'd usually be hanging out with friends till whenever, but she feels strongly about it and I respect that and make sure to be home before then, or at least call and let her know why if I'm not.
When someone is in a serious relationship, the other spouses wishes and boundaries have to be considered in nearly everything.
A married person regardless of gender shouldn't be acting like they're single, period.
A drunken flirt could lead to a 6 month affair which could in turn lead to a messy divorce.(and most people don't EVER think they'd be a cheater until the OM is pulling up his pants or the OW is buttoning up her blouse)