08-30-2012, 11:23 AM
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: S.E. Ohio
| | Re: need some solid advice
What reason does he give for cheating? Does it have anything to do with him saying you like being sad and upset? Do you like being that way, or are you usually upbeat and happy when you're around him?
As far as him changing because he doesn't like to see you in pain...doubtful that will last. Two people in a relationship shouldn't have to "change" to meet the needs of the other...the idea of getting into a relationship with someone is because they both ALREADY meet the others needs and wants in a person. Now, if there are legitimate faults or things that SHOULD be changed, then of course, change would be a positive thing. Exactly WHAT is he "changing" for you?
You say "every time" you both get into a fight...how often is that? If it happens often, then I'll be blunt: get out of the relationship. If you're fighting a lot now, it will probably only increase later, and if you add children to the mix, then your problems will become theirs, and that isn't fair to kids. You have an opportunity NOW to change your circumstances, before you multiply the problems many times over by trying to continue in what may already be a failed relationship.
Can you provide more details, as requested above?
I wish you the best, and that you stay strong through this.