05-16-2009, 10:24 AM
Join Date: Apr 2008
| | Re: Anyone else have problems with friendships?
My ex and I always argued about friendships. She considered anyone she ever said hello too a friend, people I call friends are people that we have time and trust invested in over a period of years. Her type of friend is very casual, they come and go thru out your life, my type of friend is more permenent. Quick example, my friend Scott I have known since kindergarden, we may go a year without talking sometimes. I could call him at any time and say my back hurts and I need help tying my shoes and he would be here in five minutes, and I would do the same for him. To me, that is a friend.
Now that doesn't really answer your question about friends, are women any different then men? My guess is yes, women need an emotional connection more so than men. I am a lot like you, happy and content to be by myself, but I do love my friends. Don't exclude every one from ever being your friend because you have been treated badly by someone in your past, there are some very wonderful people in this world. Open yourself to being friendly, as loners we shut ourselves off so we need to work a little harder at making friends. Move your chair a little closer to those other moms at the kids events, say hello, ask about their kids. You say you are content being by yourself, than why did you make this post? There will always be people that hurt and disappoint you, family and friends alike. But there are those few that you will come to trust without reservation, you may not think so but we need those people in our lives.