She Cheated. I hate my life.
Married 12 years. 2 kids.
I have never been unhappy in my marriage we only had 2 real fights in 12 years.
We have a new social circle of friends / parents that do crap together. When the kids go to sleep, the adults drink and have a good time.
It was sort of a weird party scene. I failed to notice my wife growing affection for one of my best friends. After alll when 20 people are drinking and being crazy nobody pays attention.
I went through her phone and saw all these horrible sext messages between the two of them. I tore her a new one, and met him at a bar and threatened to tell his wife if he didn't cut it the **** out. He actually grabbed my hand and cried like a pu$$y and said thank you for not telling his wife, etc. I pretty much forgave him.
I am not stupid. At this point, I loaded the wife's cell w/ software that allows me to take pics, listen to calls, listen to the environment, all sorts of covert ****.
I noticed the texts stopped completely. None at all so I am like cool.
one day I got an odd feeling from out of nowhere and decide to turn the mic on on her cell phone and there plain as day, they were at her office alone having sex. No question.
I saw red. I drove 100 miles an hour to her office (he was gone) and she was like "why are you here?" I proceeded to destroy her office, told her all sorts of horrible things, and called him from her office and said "If you don't call your wife right now, I am taking the recording of you ****ing my wife and posting it on your facebook page"
That was June 11th.
My whole world exploded. I spoke to them both separately and they both claimed they had sex 6 times over a 2 month period. I have no way to know if that is true. Let's assume it is.
I have ups and downs about staying together or divorcing and I still have no idea. With the kids in the mix, I will likely stay but I am not sure how I am going to "un hear" those recordings I heard and imagine the things they were doing and of course feeling like I was totally played.
I am just feeling like **** and venting. This is the worst year of my life. I have had good weeks where things are almost normal again then I go back to How the **** could she.
I tried counseling and anti depressants, She is in counseling and on anti depressants.
She totally wants to work it out and is doing all the right things but I am not sure I can get over it.
I asked if the sex was better. She said not better or worse, just different. They told each other they loved each other and That KILLS me.
she said they flirted a lot and they met for coffee and it was like they were dating. One thing led to another and she "lowered her boundaries too far" No ****....
She is in counseling trying to find out how she was capable of this and how not to let it happen again.
after I busted her, she said she doesn't miss him at all and she thought she had these feelings for him but she feels nothing but disgust about their actions when she thinks of him now.
I told him to move away or I would do more damage.
We live in Texas. He starts a new job in Nov in Wisconsin so they are moving away.
But I have lost most of my friends and am a total insecure mess now....
ugh,thanks for reading all of this.
Worst year ever!