blossom3d

Like many others on here, my spouse has cheated on me. The confession came after the woman he had the affair with sent me an email (she was someone he encountered thru work). He admitted to it right off the bat and has sworn that he has ended it (before she even sent me the email). Here's the problem, I am and always have been a very sexual person. This affair has not changed that however I now find it very awkward. We have gone from having sex 3-4 times (even during his affair) a week to twice in the last month. I am afraid to initiate it and he doesn't seem to know how to either. Do we schedule it? Do we make a game of it? Is it too early (It's been two months see I found out) I am willing to forgive him for this but I can't help but feel extremely inadequate. Help!

songbyrd

Well I am glad he admitted I went through a similar situation and our sex life has been altered as well. The best advice I have is to keep the lines of communication open and if you are feeling this way to talk about it. That really helped me and also he promised no matter how uncomfortable the questions got I could ask what I wanted. It still drives me crazy in my mind, but when we decide to stay we have to forgive and maybe you are still having hang ups about it. It takes time and the good thing is your husband was mature enough to admit his mistake.