05-26-2009, 02:56 PM
Join Date: May 2009
| | Is it considered cheating??
My husband and have have known each other since we were little. We were married 5 years before divorcing (mostly b/c he was immature, doing drugs, and gone for weeks at a time)... The final straw was when i found emails to one of our long time friends (female) who he has always had a friendship with. Emails about how much he loved her and couldn't stand me or the marriage anymore etc etc you get the point.. I divorced him having two kids at the time. We were divorced 2 years and he was in the military overseas that time. Started writing saying he had changed, etc etc wanted me and only me.. what he said to her was just misguided feelings- nothing ever happened. So yes I married him again. I felt if he had changed what caused our problems, I would be stupid not to marry the man I have always loved. 5 years into it again this time and a one year old addition... He has off and on talked to this "friend" but no real talking/problems until recently. He sends her messages all the time, calls her while I am asleep sometimes 2am in the morning.. When I found this out he said they have always been friends and always will be. He gets upset when she doesn't text or call him like normal- he gets irritated. I told him I can't deal with it. It's inappropriate for a married man to be calling females that late, sending that many messages and yet he compares it to one of his guy friends. I asked him to choose and he said there shouldn't be a choice b/c I am over reacting..That he loves only me, he is here with me not her.. Am I over reacting? Is it cheating or am I not letting go of the past? She lives in a different state, haven't seen each other in like 6 years.. However we are going to that state for a family visit soon and he wants to be able to hang out with her?? Lost