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Old 10-12-2012, 09:05 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My husband spends a TON of time on his phone and he never leaves it lying around except when he's sleeping of course. One day however he was doing some stuff in the kitchen and had it charging on the counter. I came it for something and saw his phone light up and saw that it was a KIK message. I asked him what KIK was (I had never heard of it) and he explained it. I asked him why he would need free unlimited messaging through KIK when we have unlimited texting through our phone company. He changed the subject. I never saw who it was from and refuse to snoop on his phone; he's done it to me and it made me furious so if I do it, that would be a double standard. I have suspected he was up to something for a while. He's in the army and always seems to have CQ (overnight security basically) on Friday or Saturday night. He's ALWAYS on his phone texting. Am I just overreacting or should I be suspicious? Anyone wanna KIK my husband to see if he "bites", lol. Just kidding. Kinda.
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Old 10-12-2012, 09:14 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Kik Messenger | Fast, Simple, Personal Smartphone Messaging

It looks quite a neat service. Probably better and more user friendly than text messaging.

Is he a bit of a geek? Looks like the kind of thing geeks would love.
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Old 10-12-2012, 09:18 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Not at all. His iPhone is the most technical thing he owns and he's pretty old-fashioned otherwise.

I hope I'm just overreacting.
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Old 10-12-2012, 09:39 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Does he have a lock on it? If you ask him to see it will he let you, ON THE SPOT and not "delete evidence" then let you see it.

Does he get angry and ask for you to stop invading his privacy when you grab his phone?

Pay attention to the signs of waywardness.

They're all generally the same.
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Old 10-12-2012, 09:45 PM   #5 (permalink)
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You're posting in the Infidelity forum... So what do you think? By itself, it's a red flag. But it doesn't MEAN he's cheating.

I could use an app like that to communicate with someone I didn't trust with my cell number. It might be a crazy girlfriend, it might be a Craigslist ad, whatever. I'd also use it if I didn't want my partner to see who I was communicating with. Again, it might be because I was setting up her birthday party, or I might be communicating with a prostitute. There's no way to tell. You need to either dig more or confront.

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Old 10-12-2012, 09:52 PM   #6 (permalink)
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If you're married why don't you just share passwords? Why hide anything? My wife and I even share our facebook account.
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I haven't asked to use or see his phone. I think he would feel attacked if I did. As far as I know he doesn't lock his phone. I could be overreacting I guess. I would feel so guilty if I looked on his phone and found nothing. Besides, he is totally the type to erase messages. Ugh. This is so frustrating.
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Why did it make you furious that your husband looked at your phone? You are creating a very poor precedent in your marriage, in my opinion. How long have you been married?

There is room for privacy in a marriage (as in close the door when you are on the toilet), but not secrecy (unknown passcodes on email, phone, laptop, etc).

I have a texting app on my phone however. I am not a deleter, and the stock android message service bogged down trying to keep running with all the texts. There can be advantages to using different software, but if he wasn't open and willing to share that with you, that is kind of suspicious. Usually guys would be more than happy to geek out on you, and talk way too much about it.
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Put your phone elsewhere or "leave it in the car" or "at work".

Grab his phone and ask if you can make a quick phone call to "work" or someone whom you were supposed to call back. Check his reaction, if he says "in a bit" or "later", "no wait, why don't you use your phone, where is your phone, ok wait up let me check if..." instead of "yeah sure, here is the pass, where is your phone?"
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I get mad at him for spying on me because he always gets mad at me for talking to my friends about personal problems. And he thinks that I'm "looking" for someone to cheat with. He always blows things WAY out of proportion. Besides, from the get-go, we have both expressed the wish for at least a little privacy.
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I haven't asked to use or see his phone. I think he would feel attacked if I did. As far as I know he doesn't lock his phone. I could be overreacting I guess. I would feel so guilty if I looked on his phone and found nothing. Besides, he is totally the type to erase messages. Ugh. This is so frustrating.
Its all about timing, you cannot control who messages you and when they message you.
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I get mad at him for spying on me because he always gets mad at me for talking to my friends about personal problems. And he thinks that I'm "looking" for someone to cheat with. He always blows things WAY out of proportion. Besides, from the get-go, we have both expressed the wish for at least a little privacy.
I think you guys need some external help...

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If he's accusing you of cheating, I'd bet he is cheating.
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If he's accusing you of cheating, I'd bet he is cheating.


You need to do more digging. There are a lot of red flags here.

Why don't you offer him your phone and ask that he reciprocate?
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If he's accusing you of cheating, I'd bet he is cheating.
Or he finds the need for her "privacy" as a red flag?
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