Hi I have been with my Husband for 15 years married for 8 im 33 years old he is 42. he had to tell me last thursday that he had been having an affair as he had ended with his mistress and she had told him if you finish with me I will tell your wife- (she was at my door late that night when he then told me.)
he stated that they had been friends at first coffee here and there about 7 months ago then over the last 3 months they had become more than friends. this was not somebody he worked with it was a parent at our daughters school from a different year may I add.
He has told me how stupid he was how sorry etc, he also said he wants to be with me he was just whipped into a whirlwind and didnt realize what he was doing till it was too late!!!
He cheated on his previous relationship but left her for me 15 years ago after 2 years of infidelity with her with different women, and I can say the last 14 years I have had no concerns of his fidelity...but over the last 6 months i Knew something was wrong.
He wants to work at our marriage etc.....he is still at home we have 2 children and I feel that I owe it to them and my home to try and repair this.....BUT how do I ???
I can not stop thinking about what he has done.... the deceit of all things is hurting me the most....
I am very hurt right now and have been sleeping separate from him since he told me we have talked and I have stated im not sure how im feeling, and cant promise that we will be happy in the future.......I just dont know how im going to get through this????
Has anyone dealt with this...............???? Can any one offer me some support or advice?????.
he stated that they had been friends at first coffee here and there about 7 months ago then over the last 3 months they had become more than friends. this was not somebody he worked with it was a parent at our daughters school from a different year may I add.
He has told me how stupid he was how sorry etc, he also said he wants to be with me he was just whipped into a whirlwind and didnt realize what he was doing till it was too late!!!
He cheated on his previous relationship but left her for me 15 years ago after 2 years of infidelity with her with different women, and I can say the last 14 years I have had no concerns of his fidelity...but over the last 6 months i Knew something was wrong.
He wants to work at our marriage etc.....he is still at home we have 2 children and I feel that I owe it to them and my home to try and repair this.....BUT how do I ???
I can not stop thinking about what he has done.... the deceit of all things is hurting me the most....
I am very hurt right now and have been sleeping separate from him since he told me we have talked and I have stated im not sure how im feeling, and cant promise that we will be happy in the future.......I just dont know how im going to get through this????
Has anyone dealt with this...............???? Can any one offer me some support or advice?????.