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post #136 of 579 (permalink) Old 10-31-2012, 12:23 AM
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The IT guy was a network admin. For viper technologies now free lancing. I found her cell comm. With him early in day..then eyes on ground confirmed....she's looking for some intel since I got the goods on her. She was not planning on that.
I just want the receipt for the 40 k worth of jewelry she bought one afternoon to show the judge how out of touch with reality she is!
It sucks being three hours away for another day since she could be selling my toys I guess....but I'm seeing my lawyer in am and he is a real sob. I could file here in the city which would be a different venue than the cowtown where we live and her family has been for 100yrs. I'm gonna see if I can beat her to the punch since she is 2 lawyer visits ahead of me....how fast can one file? Also how doni get my name off of the title to her car so if she gets drunk and crashes it I'm not on the hook?
My lawyer filed the initial divorce petition in 24 hours of me contacting her. The initial papework is not all that hard even with child support, interim spousal suport and interm child custody/time-sharing plan if you have a good attorney. She was a good divorce attorney so she basically had a template ready to go. We just had to tweek it.

Now the rest of the divorce with custody, child support, etc cost me $40K and took 18 months.

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Your correct ElEgirl I do access the hospital from home so I will have my attorney tomorrow put the fear of god in em.....that's a federal violation. 35k fine
I like this many times!

The fear of god is a good thing now and then, for WWs and rogue IT guys. Turn the screws.
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post #138 of 579 (permalink) Old 10-31-2012, 01:28 AM
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Don't touch the home computers for anything until you find out what the guy did to it. Make sure you don't tell him the real way you know. Maybe say you have a hidden camcorder in the house, or vars perhaps. Actually, in light of this, maybe some vars would be in order for your home.
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You know Doc, I had a buddy whose wife was very lost in the Affair fog that your wife is currently in.

She had left him and his 2 young daughters (both under 8) multiple times for POSOM.

She quit her job and stayed home as part of heir R. He still had a terrible feeling n his gut.

I told him to check his phone bills. She stopped using the cell but was using the ip phone in the home to talk to the POSOM.

He was pretty upset but was afraid to pull any triggers.

I told him to hide a VAR in the kitchen and bedroom.

In a few days he knew enough to know his R was false, his wife was making plans to permanently run off into the sunset with DBag.

But he also realized his girls were being ignored by their mother.

He filed and D'd her in less than 90 days. He owned the house so she had to leave.

So protect yourself and document everything. There will come a time when you will have to truly expose your wife to family and mutual friends so they understand the level of deceit you dealt with.

The hell with her needs, emotions, feelings or now crappy reputation.

Defend yourself.

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Well I'm home and she is stomping around like a toddler....is literally biting up the cell conversing with a new number I suspect is POSOM....heard her tell whoever I love you...it's a new unlisted
Got new pass protected router
Gonna keep up the heat
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Glad you are home.

Stay strong and cool.

Your wife is pretty far gone if she thinks a new number will throw you off because the "I love you"s" really give it away.

She really needs to leave.

When the Affair fog is this strong and blatant she will really start acting out.

Keep a VAR on you at all times and document everything just to protect yourself.

Amazing how stupid these waywards get......

And sad for your kids to have to witness this as well.

Just remember the opinion your children will form of you and your wife from this event will last a long time.

So be assertive, strong with your WW and protective of them.

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I disagree. He might be able to discern her next steps and keep ahead of her by reading them.

This is war and her emails might contain battle plans.
Keep monitoring emails and I would save a copy to a thumbdrive or have them copied to a "Cloud" account that she cannot access.

Are you in an "at fault" State as far as divorce is concerned? If so, any proof you have of the affair will be useful in court.

Check with your lawyer about the legality of using her communication in court.

Edit: Whoops. Wrote this before seeing the part about her bringing in an IT person. Don't use the home computer. She is trying to set you up for something.

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Try to cut your hours and pay.
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why has she not filed yet? it has been a month since she told me she had been to her lawyers and they needed my finacial affadavit? I have seen nothing. Told her to tell her lawyer to call mine. nothing....
Decided I am gonna let her file first as she said she was and also so my kids will forever know SHE ended it...unless this drags on another month then i will file.
whats her angle? did her attorney wake her up since between her first and 2nd visits to him I exposed the affair?
Just trying to figure her game so I can stay 2 steps ahead
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Have you found out what the it fellow did to your computer at home?

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why has she not filed yet? it has been a month since she told me she had been to her lawyers and they needed my finacial affadavit? I have seen nothing. Told her to tell her lawyer to call mine. nothing....
Decided I am gonna let her file first as she said she was and also so my kids will forever know SHE ended it...unless this drags on another month then i will file.
whats her angle? did her attorney wake her up since between her first and 2nd visits to him I exposed the affair?
Just trying to figure her game so I can stay 2 steps ahead
I think you just answered your own question.

She wanted to file first. Then she realized (or her lawyer advised) that her affair was going to be a problem in regards to her getting what she wants. Now she has to think on it, or hope that you file first (which incidentally would put you in a better position with your evidence).

As for the kids, no matter who files first, it was SHE that ended the marriage by having the affair, right?
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No. I just had my lawyer send a letter to him and put in a new pass protected router last night.....boy was she pissed between that and going to bank yesterday to find she had NO money. My lawyer said cutting the money will force her hand quicker....glad I did since when I got home I found a receipt from this week for a new Victorias secret bra.........
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Yes your right Survivorwife. We live in a conservative area but it's no fault state. So the assets will be divided fifty fifty BUT her alimony claim just took a major hit
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Are the kids going to stay with you?
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She may have had the guy keylog it in attempt to get your passwords, so don't use it until you know for sure. You should use your spare time to go have a chat to find out.
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