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post #16 of 579 (permalink) Old 10-24-2012, 10:36 PM
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Re: Just confonted her-she wants ME to move out!

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Actually a Mod probably will.

Anyway, dude, you need to be careful.
I mean, like, tight rope careful!!!

Cops don't listen to husbands. They listen to crying wives.
They don't kick wives out. They kick husbands out, or arrest them.

Now, I would suggest getting something to record conversations in the house, like a VAR, or something like that. That way you can have some evidence that way when cops show up and your wife is pumping out tears, you have some evidence to show only 10 minutes ago, she was the one yelling and throwing and fit, and you weren't the one shoving her up against the wall.

She has already shown her true colors. She wants you out.

You need to defend yourself today. And by that, I mean buy a VAR tomorrow, install it somewhere, and be non-confrontational.
Or your next post will be from jail.

And trust me, jail ain't fun. It ain't like the movies...and the movies don't make it look all that fun to begin with...
Good advice.

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Yea, you can't be nice.

Otherwise, 40% of your salary will be going to your wife, while she lives in your house, and bones another man in your bed. You want that? To take a big pay cut, and lose everything?

YOU CAN NOT BE NICE!!!
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She took two solo cruises in the last year? If that's the case, it's a sure bet she was busy every night getting her ashes hauled.

Your wife, if she's like most women I deal with, had already committed adultery or had made the decision to pursue it when she started her fitness kick. Who knows how many guys have been in the pink since that time?
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What gets me is how they can DENY while you wave the evidence right in their face....the look in her eyes is like some alien I never met, not the woman I had known for 30 years.
That's why it's called the "pod people stare." Pretty unnerving. I know I won't forget it.


Do you want to try to reconcile with her or do you want to do the sensible thing and kick her to the curb and take up with a decent 35 year old? The advice will differ somewhat depending on your goal.

In either case, you need to up your sex rank, which means 12% BF and as much muscle as you can pack on. Combined with your profession and social status, you'll be irresistible to just about every woman on the make (except your wife).

How many hours do you work each week? You might want to start moderating that in anticipation of alimony etc. I take it you're not in the USA, so you probably need to check with an attorney and find out the score ASAP before you end up working to support your wife's playmates.
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Exposé both her and the OM wide and far. Make their affair a public humiliation for both of them.


Cut her off totally financially. No cash, no credit.
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Nothing like a good shaming for the both of them, karma bus coming!
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Lawyer up.

And you can live the wonderful single life. Stay out late, work a lot and make a lot of money, drink whenever you want, wear your underwear all day, leave the toilet seat up, whatever you want!!!
And go to Montana and fish the north and south fork of the flathead river. While you're at it, go to west yellowstone and fish the Madizon and yellowstone rivers. I've had good luck at the firehole river inside the park.

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take a new job in one of those bakwards countrys that pays nothing,leave her high and dry...seriously cut OFF her cash supply now.
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Apart from lawyer-ing up, take care of yourself.

Get to see you doctor.

Do 180.
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Apart from lawyer-ing up, take care of yourself.

Get to see you doctor.

Do 180.
I guess the standard STD test also.

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I got my VAR....but I am in a sensitive line of work. I definitely cannot risk going to jail, as if anybody can....
Iam at work now overnite...I am an doctor in the hospital.
She's never worked. I gave her everything...she went on 2 cruises this year, told cold on me 6 weeks after we got back and hooked up with this dude. We have 5 kids...
I aint perfect but i am not a jerk. I suffer from nice guy syndrome I reckon.
What gets me is how they can DENY while you wave the evidence right in their face....the look in her eyes is like some alien I never met, not the woman I had known for 30 years.

One funny note...right after I first figured out who he was...I sent him a friend request on FB and watched her cellphone blowup...LMAO!!
It's ok I was a nice guy too 2 years out I have a young gf another one if that one doesn't work out. Listen to Mach and Shaggy and others. You have means get informed and hire the best tiburon-shark atty. and go to town you have been dissed enough!
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I disagree with Machiavelli. Only because your a doctor, so your sex rank is going to default at an 8, if not a nine. Lol.

So. Your a doctor. You pretty much give orders around the clinic and hospital. Telling others how to heal with the utmost confidence. Taking charge with the nurses. Giving orders you know are right and proper.

How come at home your not showing the same confident alpha male traits?
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As stated before , get a VAR and carry it on you, your wife is likley to make false accusations to have you thrown out of your home . To help protect yiurself from her lies and to cause the affair to be uncomfortable expose it.
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Welcome TAM CWI newbies- please read this

Read the above thread , it contains solid advice from professionals and folk who have been though this before.
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I hired the biggest sob lawyer I knew....especially because she hates his guts since she got deposed by him in another dr friends divorce. He was giddy when I gave him the pix and cell records.
I gave her everything because I loved her.....won't make that mistake again.
I've told the older kids about her boyfriend.....struggling with how to tell the 12 and 17 yr old. What to say?
Told my partners I'm taking time off to be with kids and lower my income.
The older kids won't talk to her anymore.
I told her siblings what she's been up to....
Told our priest since she is a bigshot at church and social league.
Yep, you make your bed and now she can lie in it with sancho.
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