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I hired the biggest sob lawyer I knew....especially because she hates his guts since she got deposed by him in another dr friends divorce. He was giddy when I gave him the pix and cell records.
I gave her everything because I loved her.....won't make that mistake again.
I've told the older kids about her boyfriend.....struggling with how to tell the 12 and 17 yr old. What to say?
Told my partners I'm taking time off to be with kids and lower my income.
The older kids won't talk to her anymore.
I told her siblings what she's been up to....
Told our priest since she is a bigshot at church and social league.
Yep, you make your bed and now she can lie in it with sancho.
Congrats with this remarkable quick change of attitude.
But you should not gather conclusive evidence first? If she hides the affair, that can have legal/financial consequences?

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Congrats with this remarkable quick change of attitude.
But you should not gather conclusive evidence first? If she hides the affair, that can have legal/financial consequences?
As Koernke would say stay frosty and focused!
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Did you tell her family too ?

Is this OM married ? Get information on him too. You need to start exposure on his side too.
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Did you tell her family too ?

Is this OM married ? Get information on him too. You need to start exposure on his side too.
Yes he has the highground!
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Really sarcastic, maybe you are hurt by one?

Don't blame your trouble on all Christian women, there are good ones too.

Besides that, Christianity is about sinners seeking forgiveness. You cannot claim superiority because of being a Christian. Jesus teaches to be humble and love your enemy.

Lets not get out of hand here and start a holy war. I took the first post to be sarcasm. With some unsaid inference to the irony of the situation

I've known Christians that didn't really deserve that title. And I've known agnostics that would put the devotion to god to shame for a lot of Christians.

Each to their own, I guess. Live and let live and all that proper stuff like that.
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You need to kick her out of the marital bedroom, and put her and all her clothes, and sundries, in a small room somewhere in your house---and you NEVER leave for any REASON---that house is just as much yours as hers!!!!!!

Tell her as of now, she is responsible for paying for HALF of each and every bill, you have monthly---that includes, mtg, if there is one, all insurance payments, car payments, and upkeep---utilities, and any other necessaries, if she needs money for her own living necessities---give her the "want ads", and tell her to get a job---you are not gonna finance, her cushy lifestyle ONE DAY LONGER

Give her no money whatsoever, cancel all CC's with her name, on them---put bank acct, in your name only, same with savings acct.

Carry your VAR, with you at all times---and just plain go DARK on her

Give her a very large dose of REALITY---I am willing to bet, her lover is gone real quick, when he finds out he is gonna have to take care of your so called wife-------when she comes running back---stay DARK on her---give her a taste of what life will be like on her own, in an apt., working for a living----she ain't gonna like it one bit--------make sure her cushy lifestyle as she knows it---IS OVER---she will wake up real quick!!!!!!
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You need to kick her out of the marital bedroom, and put her and all her clothes, and sundries, in a small room somewhere in your house---and you NEVER leave for any REASON---that house is just as much yours as hers!!!!!!

Tell her as of now, she is responsible for paying for HALF of each and every bill, you have monthly---that includes, mtg, if there is one, all insurance payments, car payments, and upkeep---utilities, and any other necessaries, if she needs money for her own living necessities---give her the "want ads", and tell her to get a job---you are not gonna finance, her cushy lifestyle ONE DAY LONGER

Give her no money whatsoever, cancel all CC's with her name, on them---put bank acct, in your name only, same with savings acct.

Carry your VAR, with you at all times---and just plain go DARK on her

Give her a very large dose of REALITY---I am willing to bet, her lover is gone real quick, when he finds out he is gonna have to take care of your so called wife-------when she comes running back---stay DARK on her---give her a taste of what life will be like on her own, in an apt., working for a living----she ain't gonna like it one bit--------make sure her cushy lifestyle as she knows it---IS OVER---she will wake up real quick!!!!!!
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Thanks for the support guys.
I just finished emailing all her family
I got the cellphone records and photos ....
Partys over for her.......
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Thanks for the support guys.
I just finished emailing all her family
I got the cellphone records and photos ....
Partys over for her.......
Good
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change your will.

update the beneficiaries on all your insurance, deposits, accounts, etc.

isolate and protect your assets.

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Expect some backlash and be prepared for it. Don't lose your temper and do something stupid. You need to play this smart
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She is going to come back you with teray eyes as she is going to loose everything she had.
Dont fall for her crocodile tears. Then also take care, when she realise her tears dont have any effect on you she will call police and press charges of Domestic violence.
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Put POSOM on cheaterville.com.
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It am so sorry. 30 years.. I was at 25.
The alien look is the strangest and most hurtful thing I have ever seen. If you are seeing this I would suggest that you need t be very, very careful. The VAR is essential when talking to her. She will lie.
If she looks straight in your eyes as she tells you something and looks totally sincere. She is lying.

DO NOT MOVE OUT.

While you can't throw her out you can separate yourself.
This will be incredibly difficult and take a very long time.
At the moment the 30 years you spent together are worthless. Totally meaningless.
Your kids needs and desires are second place in her mind.

I would not even try and reconcile at the moment, even if you wanted to. What you need to do is to let go as fast as possible. Not appear to let go but to actually let go. You will not be able to fool the person you have spent this long with.
You really will have to let her go. This will take some time and probably be the hardest thing you have done in your life.

She will attempt to hold on to you while she vacillates. Don't buy fake remorse.
Protect yourself.
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