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One funny note...right after I first figured out who he was...I sent him a friend request on FB and watched her cellphone blowup...LMAO!!
HAHAHA, thats awesome!!

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Holy smokes!

A doctor who can TAKE advice!

I thought that was like man friendly lesbians, Santa Claus and Lawyers with souls: a myth.

Just teasing! You are head and shoulders above a lot of posters who can't take a lick of advice (They know who I am talking about...)

Seems you did everything correctly. At 17, you should tell that child too. They think they are an adult and they deserve the heads up, particularly since they will probably be called upon to help mitigate the emotional troubles with the 12 year old (if they gret along)

Depending on how nasty you are: I'd put a lock on the Master Bedroom door. You can't lock her out of the house, but you CAN lock her out of YOUR room. Move her stuff out first. Maybe get a thicker door

Yes, I'd reveal to this guy's family. Why does he deserve a reputation and tranquility.

Full f*cking marks on that FB thing! That brought a tear to my eye it was so beautiful. I guess Doctors ARE smart. Nicely NICELY done.

Recall that you will need an escort to the next hosptial function. Might I suggest you start checking out potential people now. Not sure how the wife saw them, but even if they were a chore, NOT taking her and taking someone else would send a definite message which will eventually reach her social circle...with the reputational consequences which she will not like at all, particularly if you share the story that she is a few days from being served.

What is it with women that they think their vagina can't be replaced? Last I checked, they seemed pretty common. You are a doctor. Maybe you can back me up on this.
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should be a really interesting day for you dr. good job.
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Hey Doc

You seem to be doing a great job getting all your ducks in a row.

Can I make 3 suggestions:

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Take all her clothes and pack them in garbage bags.
Two
Drop the garbage bags on the OM's porch or at his front door with a note " she is all yours now, enjoy the lousy ride. "
Three
Tighten up all your finances real fast and shut off her access to joint money or credit cards.

And have a great day with your kids.

Stay tuff Doc!

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The psychological effect of discarding her clothing and her will have an impact on her. Whether you get the chance to reconcile or not you want to throw every monkey wrench into her Affair that you can!!!

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Nicely done Doc.

I know the 17 year old is still a little kid in your eyes, but he/she is one birthday away from being a legal adult. They will understand everything so I would let one of the old children fill them in on what is going on (they probably already have).

The 12 year old would certainly understand a BF/GF relationship.

Good job with taking some time off to be with the kids.
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I disagree with Machiavelli. Only because your a doctor, so your sex rank is going to default at an 8, if not a nine. Lol.
Hey, I'm just wanting to make sure he gets his pick of the supermodels. No half measures and all that.

Doc, I commend you on your quick decision and decisive action. This board is full of guys who die the death of a thousand cuts. You're not one of them. It's like getting caught in an ambush, don't hang around in the kill zone waiting for her to set of the claymores. You just bayonet charged her ambush and that's the last thing she was expecting.

When you feel like doing a postmortem on your marriage, I highly recommend you read a little book called "Married Man Sex Life Primer". It's not really about sex, but how to keep your wife's attraction. You can use the info in the book to keep the harem you'll soon be forming focused on you.
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Hey, I'm just wanting to make sure he gets his pick of the supermodels. No half measures and all that.

Doc, I commend you on your quick decision and decisive action. This board is full of guys who die the death of a thousand cuts. You're not one of them. It's like getting caught in an ambush, don't hang around in the kill zone waiting for her to set of the claymores. You just bayonet charged her ambush and that's the last thing she was expecting.

When you feel like doing a postmortem on your marriage, I highly recommend you read a little book called "Married Man Sex Life Primer". It's not really about sex, but how to keep your wife's attraction. You can use the info in the book to keep the harem you'll soon be forming focused on you.
No half measures I like that how about progress not perfection
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Don't go. Get a Voice Activated Recorder to record her statements and to verify if she starts giving false statements to the police about abuse or anger issues.

Don't let her goad you.

Unfortunately, and I say this to mentally prepare you, a judge may force you out (and he is the only one who should). It's not fair, but life sometimes isn't.

So lawyer up and get the proper motions set in place.

Set up a way into the house in case she changes the locks. Keep a PHOTOCOPY of the mortgage with your name on it with you so you can show police which might try to bar your way inside. Have your lawyer on speed dial in case she pulls shinnanigans.

Likewise the cops. If she tries to drag the OM into your house, you'll want to call the cops to remove him...and have a record made. (Having a recording of their mother and the OM trying to throw daddy out of the house is a DANDY Christmas present for the kids...just saying)

I personally would have removed the valve stems and flattened her tires. But a better question is: why didn't you take a picture of it and email it to yourself? That puts a time stamp on it. Or email your sibling.

Document her crappulance and reveal it to all her family.

Maybe you're a jerk, but she should have woman ed up and divorced you, not cheated first.

Oh...reveal to HIS family too. AFTER you have evidence.

Some would say to put a VAR in her car. Just remember you can't unsee or unhear what might be recorded.
You need to protect yourself against false criminal accusations as soon as possible. One thing I know is that a man has to prove his innocence when accused of physical spousal abuse regardless of their veracity.
Being a doctor, you should already be aware of the way the legal "profession" views doctors if you just review your liability premiums.
As far as judges go, I'm fairly certain that their IQ drops below a measurable level once they have been languishing at the public trough for more than one term so you really can't be too cautious.
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Really sarcastic, maybe you are hurt by one?

Don't blame your trouble on all Christian women, there are good ones too.

Besides that, Christianity is about sinners seeking forgiveness. You cannot claim superiority because of being a Christian. Jesus teaches to be humble and love your enemy.
SLL, I lost my religion years ago but reading your words, coupled with your avatar, almost made me get down on my knees and pray.
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The alien look is the strangest and most hurtful thing I have ever seen.


Ain't that the truth!

Also, don't try to hug her or be affectionate when she has that look in her eyes. I made the mistake several weeks after dday of attempting to hug my ex and found myself on the floor desperately protecting the family jewels.

That was the last physical connection I ever had with that woman.

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Ask HER to tell the kids that she has new "friend" and that Dad won't allow it. Make her tell the truth. Or you will. Be present when she tells them. Do not let her get away with "marital problems " An affair is not a marital problem.

Your 17 year old probably already knows and will be able to tell you a thing or two. Your 12 year old will be using denial. My youngest was the same age and the thing she is most pissed off about almost two years later is that she was that she was not told what was going on. In my case that was only 10 days after Dday.


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Ah. Still thread jacking I see. What exactly were you offering this guy as advice, instead of taking gratuitious pot shots at a religion you find offensive?
If you don't see how this is relavent I think you should read the opening post.

I gave advice starting with 2 posts after the origiinal post.

I never took a pot shot at any religion.

It is like a woman puts on crocodile tears. I am not bashing her for crying, I am bashing her for putting on a show to try to control, manipulate, etc.

My point was that people use tactics to take advantage of the good will of their partner. I do not consider someone that pretends to be a Christian in order to try to make others perceive them as having high morals as being a Christian, hence why I put Christian in quotes. I was bashing another tool that cheaters use, not Christianity. I'm sorry if not everything was completely directly relavent.

For those that missed my advice at the beginning or wish not to look, I said that he should start filing for D. He has supported her most of her life and she is showing her gratitude.

I'm sorry that some of my comments are indirectly related instead of directly.
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Status update......I wrote a letter detailing her affair and sent it to her FB friends and family. priest as well. called her brother.
Next went to bank opened new account, moved money...and I LEFT TOWN only for a weekend medical conference.
Told the kids....they know more of course....no suprises
Cancelled credit cards
Listened to Eminem song "I am not afraid" all day...I highly recommend it if your a guy wondering what do....
Now I am turning my attention to the other POS. He is divorced.no family..how best to deal with him? (legally of course)
I told my wife that my attorney and I look forward to his deposition!
thoughts?
Thanks for all the advice....working like a charm so far.....very liberating
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Status update......I wrote a letter detailing her affair and sent it to her FB friends and family. priest as well. called her brother.
Next went to bank opened new account, moved money...and I LEFT TOWN only for a weekend medical conference.
Told the kids....they know more of course....no suprises
Cancelled credit cards
Listened to Eminem song "I am not afraid" all day...I highly recommend it if your a guy wondering what do....
Now I am turning my attention to the other POS. He is divorced.no family..how best to deal with him? (legally of course)
I told my wife that my attorney and I look forward to his deposition!
thoughts?
Thanks for all the advice....working like a charm so far.....very liberating
I would personally leave the other guy alone physically. I would stay away from him totally. He is not your problem, your cheating spouse is. You will get better revenge by not caring about him and moving on. What does going after him do for you? It is ultimately your wife's fault, at least as you should be concerned, as she could of turned him down, or not pursued him If you like eminem you could listen to "25 to life."
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Status update......I wrote a letter detailing her affair and sent it to her FB friends and family. priest as well. called her brother.
Next went to bank opened new account, moved money...and I LEFT TOWN only for a weekend medical conference.
Told the kids....they know more of course....no suprises
Cancelled credit cards
Listened to Eminem song "I am not afraid" all day...I highly recommend it if your a guy wondering what do....
Now I am turning my attention to the other POS. He is divorced.no family..how best to deal with him? (legally of course)
I told my wife that my attorney and I look forward to his deposition!
thoughts?
Thanks for all the advice....working like a charm so far.....very liberating
Well, if you have some time on your hands, you cut and paste this little missive.

"Your friend POS has directly lead to the destruction of my marriage of 30 years. I have since learned that he's had a divorce in his past for reasons I do not know but guess is adultery.

Madam, I have sent this message to your husband. If you spend any time alone with this man, he has a good reason to suspect HIS intentions and you are now warned about being alone with him.

Sir, this man is a low down snake who preys on married women. You are a married man. If you see him spend an inordinate or special interest in your wife, know that this is not a good sign. I have been burned and can verify that a divorce is in the works. I felt it a public service to save you ffrom that pain."

Then you send it to each of his married friends. Do not send more than one message a minute in FB. Private Message it.

If you want to amp things up even more...

Face Book on both their walls.

"This is my wife (picture) If you see her with THIS man (picture), please PM me at (address) with any evidence in a dissolution of marriage procedure. You will remain anonymous."
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