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I would personally leave the other guy alone physically. I would stay away from him totally.
I disagree about leaving the OM alone. Don't confront him physically but you'll feel much better getting some retribution - I know I did - and I still feel good knowing that he suffered as much (or more) than I did. Below is how I got mine:

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...When I discovered my wife's affair with a former boyfriend from 20+ years ago, I went absolutely nuclear on his ass. I copied all 200+ pages of explicit email and Facebook messages between the two of them and emailed copies to everyone at his workplace (from the secretary to his boss); I made sure to also copy the PTA of his daughter's elementary school. This is in addition to mailing a zip drive to his wife. And what did the bastard do?

He had a lawyer send me a terse letter informing that if I continued such actions he would be forced to sue me for violating several state and federal statues. Some of which included inflicting emotional distress, interference with contract (I guess this meant the marital contract), et cetera, et cetera. The way I was feeling I didn't give a sh!t what this azzhole and his lawyer did to me. In the end, I didn't do anything else - not out of fear of a lawsuit - but because I had already exacted my vengeance on the scumbag OM.
Edit: Plus you'll be doing a favor to the next guy whose marriage he might otherwise have destroyed. Trust me, my ex's OM won't be messing around with married women for a long long time.

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I love it....I like the idea of putting her clothes in a garbage bag and dumping them at his door with the note...LMFAO
Unfortunately he is divorced with no kids...I do know where the POS works though....hmmm
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I love it....I like the idea of putting her clothes in a garbage bag and dumping them at his door with the note...LMFAO
Unfortunately he is divorced with no kids...I do know where the POS works though....hmmm
Hey Doc

I am serious about dropping her crap off.

It sends a clear signal to her that you are letting her go.

It also lets the OM know she will be going there. The OM has to decide if the Affair was a fling or if he has to now man up for his new GF who is still legally married. Hence more complications to his life.

Now his free piece of @ss (your wife) comes with a price. His freedom and bachelor lifestyle banging multiple chicks with very little commitment is over......

Stay tough. Enjoy your weekend away. Let your attorney work his magic and start to let your wife feel the consequences of her crappy actions.

Most of all keep your head and stay calm.

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I love it....I like the idea of putting her clothes in a garbage bag and dumping them at his door with the note...LMFAO
Unfortunately he is divorced with no kids...I do know where the POS works though....hmmm
If you have electronic evidence between the POSOM and your wife, you could create a 'dummy' email account and mail it from your nearest public or university library to his co-workers. You'll be doing them a great service.

Interesting aside: My ex's POSOM created an AOL email to contact my wife using the pet name that they used for his 'Johnson' - something along the lines of POSOM_Johnson's_PetName@AOL.com. When I sent my mass email, I created a Yahoo account with the same name - POSOM_Johnson's_PetName@Yahoo.com that I cc'd him on. I still get pleasure thinking about his reaction when he saw that in his work inbox.
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Status update......I wrote a letter detailing her affair and sent it to her FB friends and family. priest as well. called her brother.
Next went to bank opened new account, moved money...and I LEFT TOWN only for a weekend medical conference.
Told the kids....they know more of course....no suprises
Cancelled credit cards
Listened to Eminem song "I am not afraid" all day...I highly recommend it if your a guy wondering what do....
Now I am turning my attention to the other POS. He is divorced.no family..how best to deal with him? (legally of course)
I told my wife that my attorney and I look forward to his deposition!
thoughts?
Thanks for all the advice....working like a charm so far.....very liberating
Wow!
You did everything!!!
Wow...just...wow dude. Good job!!!

Becareful which Eminem songs you listen to though. Because listening to "Love the way you lie," was a horrible idea for me...

But good job dude!!!
You keep this up, you'll be on the greatest chapter of your life pretty soon!
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Doc must be related to BFF. These two guys are textbook examples of how to take control of the situation with their cheating wives. (Alas, I would've been one of the examples of how not to handle it.)
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Eureka, I found it...the POS has a security clearance in order to work at a defense contractor here....sent email to CEO......he can kiss that security clearance bye bye....military takes a dim view of adulteru
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If you have electronic evidence between the POSOM and your wife, you could create a 'dummy' email account and mail it from your nearest public or university library to his co-workers. You'll be doing them a great service.

Interesting aside: My ex's POSOM created an AOL email to contact my wife using the pet name that they used for his 'Johnson' - something along the lines of POSOM_Johnson's_PetName@AOL.com. When I sent my mass email, I created a Yahoo account with the same name - POSOM_Johnson's_PetName@Yahoo.com that I cc'd him on. I still get pleasure thinking about his reaction when he saw that in his work inbox.
I would have lived to be a fly on the wall of his office when he saw that email and then realized who was also sent that email.

I bet he went crazy........
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I would have lived to be a fly on the wall of his office when he saw that email and then realized who was also sent that email.

I bet he went crazy........
HM, some days I have to fight the urge to call one of his co-workers to try and get the skinny on how my Shakespearean plot played out.
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HM, some days I have to fight the urge to call one of his co-workers to try and get the skinny on how my Shakespearean plot played out.
He is definitely going scorched earth like bff, I'd like to see her show her face in church again

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He is definitely going scorched earth like bff, I'd like to see her show her face in church again


And it only took him a day and five pages to take action.
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I disagree about leaving the OM alone. Don't confront him physically but you'll feel much better getting some retribution - I know I did - and I still feel good knowing that he suffered as much (or more) than I did. Below is how I got mine:



Edit: Plus you'll be doing a favor to the next guy whose marriage he might otherwise have destroyed. Trust me, my ex's OM won't be messing around with married women for a long long time.
To each their own. Just make sure you don't lose track of who is ultimately responsible. If it were not him, she would of found someone else.
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And it only took him a day and five pages to take action.
I'm quite surprised. Most drag their feet.
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To each their own. Just make sure you don't lose track of who is ultimately responsible. If it were not him, she would of found someone else.
You are correct her first but ya gotta have some fun with that pos!
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To each their own. Just make sure you don't lose track of who is ultimately responsible. If it were not him, she would of found someone else.
But it WAS him - and that's who I took care of.

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